>be in LTR for 2 years
>when we start dating she asks if I would ever consider living abroad for a couple years
>at the time I said yeah sure
>thinking abroad meant like france something nice, temporarily, if it didn’t mess with my career
>time goes on, relationship is fine
>” living abroad” includes the third world
>change my mind about *living* abroad, definitely open to traveling and seeing new places
>tell gf
>she’s rightfully upset, feels bait and switched
>says she didn’t know she would have agreed to dating me if I said that from the beginning
>says it’s a sacrifice for her to even be in this country since she’s so international
>she works here, lives here, family is from here
>she doing even know when the timeline is or what the country is
>doesn’t speak any other languages
>thinks I can just “get a job and work remote” and she’d do the same
>she’s upset I won’t risk my career or proximity to family and friends for just the possibility of moving somewhere when I’m like 35-40
>try to compromise with more travel, taking longer vacations, not good enough
>we’ve almost broken up over this
am I an butthole? Is there any chance in saving this? I don’t want to risk the life I’ve built for myself but I want to make this work and care about her
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Nah, you're likely shit in bed. She wants foreign wiener and she will get it with or without your approval. It's over for you.
I can just “get a job and work remote”
Anon you're on a board of people who do exactly that. Go on LinkedIn, look up any job, select Remote filter. It's not hard. If you can't do the simple task of getting a remote job, you don't care about her.
>yeah bro just work remote
Not everybody is a code monkey
>she’s rightfully upset, feels bait and switched
That's her problem. If she wants to do it anyway, she should not rely on somebody else since people change their minds. It just means they are too weak willed to do it alone.
Bait thread. You literally posted something like this last week.
I was thinking exactly this.
She left you OP because you were boring and she wanted some spicy sausage. Get over it
If you move to be closer to a woman, or let her drag you somewhere you don't want to go, that's usually the beginning of the end of the relationship. You'll make her happy for about 15 minutes and then she'll realize you're weak for doing it, grow distant and dump you.
She is just using you as a piggy bank, oink oink
doomed relationship
another instagram victim.
when the pain wanes, keep the fond memories
just another typical IG roastie who thinks all these places are glorious and not dangerous. women, as long as they are 20% attractive, truly do not have worries in life.
I'm on a similar situation, except I think for me it's even worse.
>No remote jobs on my or her field
>It's very hard for me to get a job in her country and move over there as it's very restrictive
>She doesn't want to leave hers, plus she only speaks English
I'm at a point where we either get married so I can move over there, or we break up since she doesn't even want to THINK about moving here. Shit sucks.
These alternatives you're proposing (longer vacations, travels, etc.) are not sustainable on the long run, or were more viable 10 years ago. You're a grown man, I think you either 'man up' and sacrifice your career, friends, and family to be with her, or just end things. Will you wait till you're 40 to make this choice? You always knew this was on the table when you got into a LDR.
>or we break up since she doesn't even want to THINK about moving here
She sounds based. Imagine wanting to raise a family in America. I've pretty much come to the realization that I'll have to marry a European or spend my days an old bachelor. moronic thirdies just don't do it for me.
It's not that hard to retrain as a code monkey. Do you want your sons to be trannies and your daughters to be mudsharks?
You don't even have to spend your whole life programming, just do it for 1-3 years and then switch over to being a Product Manager. Half the kids who did CS at my undergrad don't write a single line of code at this point (I'm in my mid-20's).
I'm moving to Italy and I'm gonna live like a king on my American salary.
She was politely aaking you if you were ok with a casuql sugar daddy arrangment when you started dating, she's obviously miffed you're refusing to deliver.
Valentinna nappie's blacked videos are the best videos in human history btw.