How do you enjoy travelling alone?

I have fun sightseeing and exploring new places. But then I just want to have some food/drinks with friends, and it feels so fricking weird and lonely to do it by myself.

How can I chill by myself during a trip abroad?

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  1. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    You need to accept the fact that we are not normies, and we will never be. gays will tell you to just get a friend but we both know it will never happen.
    Does this suck?
    yes. I remember being on the azores, beatiful place, and every time when I went to a restaurant I was eating alone when people were having fun and social life.
    If you feel into the trap of depression regarding this it will affect your hoiliday aswell, so try to chill. While waiting and eating I usually tend to reflecting about what great stuff did I see, or calling my friends-relatives at home and talking with them what did I see.

  2. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    just b urself and meet people there

  3. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    >But then I just want to have some food/drinks with friends

    Being a normie sheeple sounds so fun

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      ah yes, the enlightened autist who is so much better than people who actually enjoy their lives

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        well yeah, this is SighSee. do you want us to concede that doing things the normal way has merits? none of my old highschool classmates have been outside of North America and the Caribbean and many are quite well off

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        >Make a thread about how miserable you are while simultaneously claiming you enjoy life

        Is this typical normie sheeple behavior when traveling to super dooper fun locations?

  4. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    This is my first trip to Vietnam and I've been ordering delivery and eating street food because it's so good and cheap and honestly, I never want to go back to restaurants. I don't get feelings of loneliness anymore because I eat for utilitarian purposes. If you're hitting the gym hard, eating isn't for fun anymore. You NEED it

  5. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    Cause I'm not an insecure autist who gives a shit what people think of me.

  6. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    Japan is the perfect place for travelling alone:
    - many restaurants have counter seats
    - fast food is designed to be eaten alone as well as with others
    - many business hotels in convenient areas offering single rooms that aren't just doubles with one breakfast subtracted
    - public baths are frequently used alone
    - easy to chat up people in bars and around night clubs

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      >public baths are frequently used alone
      I would certainly hope so.

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        They're also used by families and groups of friends, segregated male/female, just like hot springs.

        • 2 years ago
          Anonymous

          Joke went right over your head.

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      >easy to chat up people in bars and around night clubs
      how is this easier in Japan? if anything it's more difficult because nobody speaks english

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        Obviously speaking Japanese helps tremendously but them being drunk enough to lose their inhibitions towards their highschool English is nearly as good and sometimes more amusing.

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        Japanese and Korean drinking culture. They drink a lot, cut loose, and many like to practice/show off their English when they're drinking. You can go out any night and just drink near a group of people and get absorbed into whatever they're doing that evening. Just hold a drink in your hand and smile and nod a greeting if you catch anyone glancing at you.
        This is great for vacations but it can be a trap if you live there. It's a big reason why expats drink so much.

        • 2 years ago
          Anonymous

          >This is great for vacations but it can be a trap if you live there.
          sounds fun to do this every weekend with random people to be honest

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            It does get you mentally and physically after a while.
            Luckily Japan offers many other activities that you can engage in alone, they even have socially accepted single karaoke.

  7. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    >How can I chill by myself during a trip abroad?
    I travelled the U.S east coast by myself for 3 months. You can enjoy yourself by going to the same bar a handful of times instead of going to a new place each time, because your presence will become more 'accepted' each time you go. Remember that if you're a foreign tourist you're automatically more interesting than a lot of the other people in there. If you have positive body language and don't just stare at a phone you can have conversations with strangers who may invite you to their table. Suffering from 'fear of missing out' is one of the worst inventions of recent mankind. There is nothing wrong with being alone, but you can always meet new people if you stay positive.

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      I can't have good body language if I've been very online on a laptop since forever.

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        You have all the information in the world at your fingertips. Look up youtube videos on the subject and start learning

  8. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    My advice is to pick up a solitary hobby like reading and just be open to observing your surroundings. It’s fun to notice things and ask people about them.

    If you just bury your head in your phone, well, you can do that anywhere.

  9. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    Why is everyone on this board so self conscious lmao. I’m a very shy person and even I don’t give a shit about eating alone abroad. At the end of the day I’m the one rich enough to sit around day drinking, why should I care about being judged by some Monkey who literally serves me to scrape a living. Get a grip

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      I felt bad for the amount of cope in this post, so I'm giving you this (you) to make you feel less lonely.

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        >it's impossible to be happy alone

        Newsflash not everyone is an extroverted moron like you

  10. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    >1 day alone in rome waiting for friends to come the next day
    >eat lunch and dinner in normal restaurants alone. dont feel awkward about it because i know it’s by choice
    >waiters in both restaurants started making a big deal about me being alone and gave me looks of pity
    I honestly can’t imagine doing that for an entire week. I’m not very emotionally sensitive but the experience still made me feel like shit

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      >waiters in both restaurants started making a big deal about me being alone and gave me looks of pity
      Bullshit, I simply cannot believe these posts and I am sure they are some kind of demoralisation sociopathic psyop to stop introverted white men from spreading their seed. Nobody does this. Eating alone is extremely normal. Literally every time I go to a hotel or restaurant there are multiple people (usually 25-45 year old men) alone, people assume you are on business or more likely they don’t even think about you at all. This thread is so gay

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        This. I literally went to a couples resort for a week because I wanted to relax, and I'd be the only person alone among dozens of diners eating my grub. Nobody gives a frick because nobody knows why you're there. Maybe a dumped girlfriend? Maybe he just likes the place and keeps coming back? It doesn't matter. It took until my mid-20s before I learned that nobody in this world gives a shit about anybody else.

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        I swear it happened. Maybe I fricked up when I asked for a table for 1 or something, I don’t know. I’m not familiar with the ins and outs of solo travel so if that isn’t common I probably looked awkward despite being comfortable

        • 2 years ago
          Anonymous

          >You're here alone?
          >My friends are joining me tomorrow, looking forward to meeting them, it's been a while!

  11. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    Better question: How do you enjoy traveling with other people?

    I fricking hate having to do shit that's boring or making decisions by committee because no one can agree on what they like so it's just a giant compromise that you paid thousands of dollars to do. Or even worse, they just want to talk the whole fricking trip while you're trying to be quiet and calm and take in the sights and sounds while you explore.

    I've been traveling alone for a while and I'm going to have to change that soon and I'm not looking forward to it.

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      This, after being dragged around Amsterdam by a bunch of normie cattle with zero interest in culture or even weed I swore to never do it again. Now I just change my tinder location, set something up and go there alone. Best decision I ever made

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      I think most people feel lonely at dinner or when they go out. It’s perfectly fine to travel with people and spend the days separately and the nights together for the best of both worlds

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        What if she flakes?

        • 2 years ago
          Anonymous

          Then you dodged a bullet and find someone else to go with next time

  12. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    I'm 41 and when i think to all my travels, the best were definitely alone, i feel much more free, i'm a grandpa when it come to have fun, i don't like party, nightclub,one night sex, so yeah it's better to be alone when all your friends just want that kind of fun.

    I also like the places with no tourists, my friends are the opposite, they think more theres tourists better is the place...

    So frick them, i just pack light and travel in 3rd world countries, rent a motorcycle and visit, discovering foods, morning beach, evening sunset, casual boring stuff for many dudes.

  13. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    OP I was in your situation and nothing worked for me until I got over my autism and started meeting people when traveling. Chat people up in bars, just randomly talk to people who seem friendly, join groups of people drinking, etc. It made every trip 1000% better for me.

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      Nice LARP

      always funny when people will explain you they are so cool, they just go in any place, see a bunch of random, and use their lvl 99 speech, so everybody is under the charm instantly

      Group of people don't give a shit about a loner, they don't want you in their tables, unless you show sign of wealth and pay everything for them.

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        Gotta love millennials who explain life to you that they learned from playing video games and not from going outside

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        this is the guy from the list threads just wanting to talk shit and make up crap about anyone

        • 2 years ago
          Anonymous

          Haha esl teacher still seething across multtiple threads

          • 2 years ago
            Anonymous

            Thanks for the confirmation!

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        Are you so detached from normies that you dont realize how this is how most people operate? If you want to make friends, yes, you actually have to talk to people you don’t already know and be fine with getting rejected every once in a while

        • 2 years ago
          Anonymous

          This is not like people operate, this is how people on an image board explain to you how they would like to operate.
          I think you are the one detached of the realities and see the world through netflix series...

  14. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    Go to something linked to an autistic interest. Reseach hard on the places in the city that has them and go. Make so many friends this way with the "how the frick did you find this place" at a underground techno party or a punk gig. Not hard

  15. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    I did years of traveling alone and always always found people to hang out with if I felt like it. You are staying in a hostel aren’t you? Always made friends in hostel among guests and also staff. I don’t see how you can get lonely traveling unless you are checking into hotels by yourself. Even then there’s tinder and Grindr so unless you are incredibly unattractive I don’t see how you could be moping around by your lonesome unless it’s by choice.

  16. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    Unironically set up Tinder. If you use it as a people meeting platform and not a getting laid platform you'll have an incredible time (and get laid like a moron).

    Look up how to set up a good profile and dish out $20 - $30 for a few boosts if you absolutely must (tho I advise against it). Normally when I'm in a new area I'll be setting up dates left and right in the first days, then I'll get more selective and pick out the hotties as time goes by. I ain't looking to bang necessarily so I'm fine with going out with a girl that isn't physically appealing to me, since it's still an amazing time. It's fun to exchange cultures, life stories with people from all around the world, and listen how they think.

    You'll get amazing tours of awesome hidden spots and have the best time partying with other tourists.

    Sometimes neither of us will speak a common language, these dates are the most fun by far and they're exciting to the girls too. Google translate is there for essential shit but there's no small talk, no bullshit anxious talk, it's all eye contact and body language. Usually goes to banging instantly too. You cannot frick these up unless you literally shit yourself mid-date. Just jokingly promise her a fun catastrophe and enjoy watching it unravel.

    When you get bored of your city you can pay for premium, look up picturesque small areas around it and set up dates there. These small places are intimate, isolated, and have a wonderful quiet vibe to them, they're perfect for dates, and the girls will normally be thrilled to show you around.

    If you're an ugly autist and can't get laid invest some time in yourself. Literally don't be fat - dress fitting clothes and learn the basics of speaking (IE listening) to women. Unrelated to Tinder since all of the above will improve your life in general, by a long shot.

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      Is tinder really worth it?
      Haven't tried it during travelling yet, but when I set up a tinder profile in my city, I was only able to meet women that were not appealing to me

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        It's not. It is massively skewed in favor of females

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        Depends on where you travel.

        I'm a tall pale buff guy so I score with latinas and asian girls massively. At home I'm nothing special - I usually match with 3/10 to 6/10s at home, in Europe I match with solid 8/9s on the regular since I'm like 2x the size of the average dude. There's also the fact you're a bit more exotic as a foreigner.

        If you have any semblance of success on Tinder (15-20+ matches with uggos) that means there's tonnes to leverage there. With Tinder I find there's either 0 hope (<5 matches or 0 responses ever - nearly unsalvageable, something is fundamentally wrong with your looks - these are the 'TiNdER doEsN't WoRk' posters you'll usually see). But if the uggos are sticking, it means you've got A LOT to work with. I started off with 10 undateable unfrickable women and by changing shit around ended up with like 500+ matches in a month.

        My advice: experiment with your pictures, try different bios. For example I found that using neutral typical pics that only showcase my looks gets me tonnes of matches but few responses - I look alright, kinda attractive, but there's a male model mf swiping everyone and trying to frick everyone all at once.

        Photofeelr is good. Unless you're gigachad you don't want the highest average score, you want a pic that SOME people that rate low have rated as a 10/10 (rather than everyone giving you a 7/10)

        For example I put up some pics where I look serious and it's clear I'm powerlifter buff. This gets me less matches but it's all BDSM b***hes interested in being slapped around and spit on and they are VERY responsive and very keen to meet up because I tick all their boxes appearance-wise.

      • 2 years ago
        Anonymous

        At least in the US most people have better luck with hinge since the girls on there aren’t just trying to shill their Instagram account. I used hinge in miami, denver, dc, Philly, Atlanta, Boston, and any other small beach town I was at and it worked way better than my Tinder did. Most tinder girls aren’t interested in dating, they’re interested in farming Indian compliments and also for the ever-elusive chad to come around for quick fricks. You only need to frick 2-3 tinder girls before you realize that matching with a smarty who has a cool job or hobbies is a better date than some hot dumb b***h with nothing going on.

        For this reason, I lean heavily on hinge because that way I find smart girls who aren’t as pretty, but are way more receptive to conversation, and don’t need to go clubbing in order to have fun. I am a mid twenties short white guy who is buff and I’ve had plenty of success this way.

        • 2 years ago
          Anonymous

          Is hinge in other countries or what are good apps in Europe?

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      That's a great post. Though the body language and eye contact sounds a bit intimidating for an autist.

    • 2 years ago
      Anonymous

      this advice worked for me in every country except for Japan.

      did anyone had a bad experience on Tinder in Japan? it seems that most of the girls there don't speak English at all, which further complicates all issues obviously

  17. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    OP asking advice how to chill by himself.

    EVERYBODY larping on how they are the coolest and can frick 8/10, 9/10 girl in no time...

  18. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    How often do you find someone would tell you, "oh yeah my best friend? i meet him on a bar one night, he was alone, i was alone, we talked about life and so on, we are BFF now!" please...

  19. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    go to barrestaurants with english barkeepers. they are fricking worldwide. u will be able to drink with fellow travelhomies or abroadworkers. traveling alone is kino.

  20. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    I think about how annoying and juvenile asian people are, especially young ones (that aren't hookers) and plan gun purchases for when I get back home.

  21. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    The general populace is so fricking degenerate anyways, why the frick would you want have social interactions with them...?
    Loners always think their life will be better if they hang out with some morons, but no it's not better, it's much worse.

  22. 2 years ago
    Anonymous

    I just go to a bar and talk to a stranger. 25% of the time they are cool and are down to get another beer or a snack.
    Other ways I’ve made friends is on hikes or something outdoors and then you meet up for a beer afterwards.
    And, most reliably, I just match with Hinge girls and use them as an accuse to go to nicer restaurants.
    85% of my meals when solo traveling I eat alone though. But it’s hard to be worried about it when you’re eating a pub sub on the beach in miami watching the sunset, or eating MREs on the side of a mountain during a camping trip. Actually, pretty much every single Friday and Saturday I am camping somewhere anyway, so not having plans doesn’t even feel weird, since it’s not like I’m on the couch looking for something to do.
    Alternatively, ramen at the bar, or reading with a book, or bringing a journal to write in also keeps the loneliness at bay.
    I’ve been solo travel in the US for the last 6 months so I am well-versed in eating alone and making friends in new cities.

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