There are a few historical small towns next to the big city I'm currently living.
I've invited a couple of friends to go to one of those towns with me and see the sights, but both declined. I'm inclined to just go alone, spend a couple days and then come back.
But I also think it will make me seem like a loser with no friends if I travel alone
OP, you have to get over that mental wall of caring about how others perceive you in general. I promise you, absolutely promise you, no one is going to care what it is you do. The people you'll see on your journeys are temporary, the memories you'll make are eternal.
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>no one is going to care what it is you do
some will, but those are always sad fricks, so frick 'em
And even if they did care, why should you care about the opinions of strangers that you will never see again?
>Is it cringe to travel alone?
No it isn't.
Next question.
What you have to realize is that the older you get, the harder it is to have friends who can commit to a trip. They have their own hobbies & interests to pursue, and their own commitments to deal with. If every person needed a friend to travel with them and literally could not do it themselves, then no one would travel.
>If every person needed a friend to travel with them and literally could not do it themselves, then no one would travel.
I'd like to believe it, but when you look at hotels, there's rarely a bedroom for only 1 person (diregarding hostels and cabin hotels).
The only place that may have as many single travelers as groups is probably Thailand, for obvious reasons.
That being said, when i see couples traveling, half of them seem miserable, likes fishes out of their bowl, with either the man or the woman not being in it, or the woman being a controlling b***h and castrating the guy, or the guy being an obviously closet gay guy and everyone looking at the couple know.
What i mean is, being a couple or in groups doesn't make you immune of social judgment.
I travel solo all the time, sometimes with wife, and honestly, NOBODY gives a frick as long as you pay your bills. In the worst case they don’t give a damn, in the best case they are nice to you and they try to be sociable with your ass.
Just don’t look like a hobo/schizo/creep and you’ll be more than fine.
>Just don’t look like a hobo/schizo/creep and you’ll be more than fine.
any advice on that? haha. people often tell me i should smile more because i look like im always angry, but i dont know how to do that haha, hard to smile over nothing
If you look angry, it doesn’t help too much but again, in the worst case, people don’t give a shit unless you actively act like a moron.
Just be polite, add some small talk to make things more pleasant if you want some extra smiles from people.
I usually have good and warm welcome from people because I always act fast, looking at people’s face when I talk, and yeah, with a small natural smile, it makes wonder.
Don’t act slow, as well. People usually tend to think you’re a moron if you take too much time on deciding, ordering and so on. They will forgive you being a moron and will forget about it though, so don’t overthink.
Don’t be skinnyfat it gives off schizo vibes
whats wrong with being cringe?
some uptight roastie doesn't like?
Traveling in a group is cool, but it adds a layer of complexity that can be annoying to deal with, but if the people are cool then it makes the trip 10x better. Solo is cool because if you want to do something, you can just do it without having to have a group meeting about it.
This.
travelling in a group gives you the ability to bounce off each other and helps make your experience more realized. But other there could be interpersonal conflict that grows because everyone is attached to each other during the whole trip and character conflict can arise that you didnt realize about them.
I know a girl that started becoming a control freak and always wanted to control what the entire group did, and obviously in the past was the mother hen, but now since shes hanging with more people shes out of whack not being the one in control.
Another one was a guy friend who I got the impression of not liking asian food despite being in an asian country, and kept taking everyone to over westernized places just cause he didnt like the spice or the fish taste of local food there. He also prone to talking down friends when he gets irritated, changed the outlook of whole trip
Keep this in mind when comparing group vs solo. neither is directly more better than other. theres always tradeoff
Honestly, whatever advantages you got travelling in a group can be compensated by finding groups right there and then. You're better off meeting up people in your hostel or in bars you can have shameless fun with, possibly even casual sex. Only scenario where I can picture going with a group of friends would be specifically for partying with them.
For example, I was out in Paris chilling by the Seine, met a few people who were doing a picnic, shared a few beers, and then offered me to join them to go to a club. Next thing I know, it's sunday morning and i'm at a late after party trying to stealthily frick a girl in the toilet. We're going to Versailles today. I would've never done anything of the sorts if I were with my friends.
>See random dude walking alone in a street
>He has to either be a nonce or a divorcee
It could be your opinion, but nobody actually cares. It is however very sad that you feel the need to travel with friends not because it is enjoyable, but because you are afraid of being accused by complete strangers that you're a pedo or a divorced dad.
>>See random dude walking alone in a street
>>He has to either be a nonce or a divorcee
>See a dude walking at all
>He must be broke and can't afford a car
Didn’t even read the whole thing but I just know I’d rather go alone
Is this an american thing? I can't imagine traveling without my mates. What are you trying to look like a loser peadophile?
>obsessed with America
>Neptunia
>randomly babbling about pedos
Silence, Brazilian
Is that a thing? I always see packs of roaming Aussies/Kiwis whenever I travel.
To OP, I prefer alone.
t. American
It’s not cringe, and tbh nobody will care if you travel alone. Locals don’t give a frick unless you look like a total tourist, normies will barely care about your travels anyway, and other travellers have most likely travelled alone before asw.
If you’re looking for others to travel with though, look for some tour group to travel with. Done it before, and it can be a good time.
People do find it surprising, or at least, the older generation does. When I told coworkers I was solo traveling in Japan, basically all of them said I was "brave" for doing so. Even a middle aged Japanese lady that I met on the train to Mt. Fuji said the same thing. But that could be because I'm a woman.
You arent a woman and you never will be
There's no train to mount Fuji. You have to take a bus. So your story is as believable as you ever looking remotely like a real woman.
You can take a train to a town near the base of mt fuji and presumably carry on from there.
That’s what I was going to do but overslept lol.
Sure you did troony. It was real in your mind.
The way I see it, I only have one life so if I can’t get people to go with me somewhere I really want to go then I’m gonna stop that from letting me get the experience especially while I’m still young. Most people have their own shit going on so they’re not gonna care as much as you think they might, and if they do then frick em.
>be burger
>travel alone for 2 weeks of time off
>want to sit somewhere so you have to pay 2000% tip because the wait staff has to constantly feed me soda budlight and cheeseburgers
>get up and walk around shit stain on my trousers
>walk around and look like peadophile or a divorced dad
>never take in the local culture
>speak too loud and walk around drunk
>give everyone who speaks english a bad name
>return back home to shitstain country of no culture walmart and mcdonalds to wageslave for hours and hours without any chance of a holiday again because your big dumb and fat
>2000% tip
you're living in the past
2500% tip minimum
You get over it. Use it as an excuse to start getting good at social skills. People aren’t as scary as you think. It’s ok to be alone but it’ll start to get bad if you spend to much time
Very often now, you see women travelling alone (especially in European cities and stuff).
Are you going to be out-traveled by some instagram b***h?
Are you going to be more self-conscious than some b***h because you don't have the balls to go where you want to go? A man who is not self-reliant is not a man.
No. More cringe to need people to do stuff with bc you’re not comfortable enough in your own company.
I started solo travelling after I broke up with boyfriend, I can’t say I miss negotiating where to eat and what to do and pretending to be interested in their thing. Currently hiking with a friend in SEA and she’s turned up to the resort in Crocs - that kind of stuff too gets annoying
If you're cringe alone, you probably have cringe friends and will be even worse in a group.
It's not inherently cringe to travel alone.
I don't mind being alone but the only time I had to travel alone (I always travel with my cousins but they had to cancel) it felt boring and didn't have the desire to do much
I personally don't see myself traveling alone by choice but I see no problems with people doing it. I even admire someone that can travel to the other side of the globe alone and has a blast. I can't picture myself doing that in a million years
very female energy
post feet pls
I dont want to travel with my mates.
One is not interested at all about history or culture
One is super picky about the places we visit (the restaurant has to have good reviews on tripadvisor)
One hates to just walk around and prefers to chill at the hotel
My next trip is a solo trip for sure.
Kek traveling with all three at once sounds like pain
>One is super picky about the places we visit (the restaurant has to have good reviews on tripadvisor)
I'd go with this one.
A Karen is useful sometimes. Let him chose the restaurants, you won't have to think about it and he will be happy.
Why does travelling with someone autoamtically means you have to hold their wiener for the entire journey ?
Guy doesn't like museums ? Well he can stay at the hotel or go some place else alone or with another guy in the group.
Guy is super picky about shit ? He either gives out suggestions, which you guys can follow, or submits to the group, or doesn't, and stays in the hotel
Guy is lazy ? Let the fricker waste away in the hotel and meet him in the evening for a drink.
None of them are planning to do something you like ? Leave them and do your thing.
Just because you guys planned to go together doesn't mean you have to be with them 24/7. They're still your mates, so anything involving having a beer with them or some group activity might be interesting, but you don't have to have something for everyone all the time.
The truly worst type of travel is with a wife or a family relative, because then you can't really just drop them like a hot potato to do whatever you want.
Unironically nobody cares.
I’ve visited about 70 countries, many alone. Meeting other solo travelers is a common and unremarkable occurrence. The only people who might think you’re “strange” are sheltered children on girls’ trips or organised tours. Nobody who’s spent significant time overseas would see anything strange in it.
You are a loser just by thinking this OP. The thing is nobody cares about you, at home or when traveling, so you should learn to do whatever you want and enjoy life.
Also traveling alone gives you way more opportunities to frick b***hes, many said b***hes traveling alone themselves.
Traveling with someone is actually worse than traveling alone, takes you out of the experience, you're not actually fully there if you're traveling with someone.
I traveled with a couple of people I met and no matter how nice they are, after a week or two I crave being alone again. And I'm a very extraverted person. It's just different.
Also traveling with women is a fricking nightmare, never do it unless the sex is worth it
My impression is that as long as you arent skinnyfat then nobody will bother you. And what I mean by that is that people might have negative opinions of you but wont frick with you if at forst glance they think you can make them feel pain in a fight. But they might frick with you if you’re small and fat. I think to the subconcious mind it registers the same way a woman or childs physique registers: non-threatening
T. Traveled both normal and skinnyfat
I have friends but as you get older you don't really have a tight knit crew you did when you were younger. As such, I am somewhat of a lone wolf these days, a sigma male if you will. I do tons of things alone, always eat out (never cook my own food) and I have travelled alone on occasion.
I much prefer travelling with people (be that friends or workmates)/a purpose (e.g. I go to conferences where there will be events and parties and people I can see) but there is always a resistance travelling alone, however, not because of what others think. Frick other people anon, that's some irrational and unhealthy thinking, no one is thinking about you or looking at you. This is your life, not theirs and you live it like a man, making your own decision and doing exactly as you wish. My resistance is simply the reminder that I'm lonely at the moment and can't seem to get that natural feeling of actually being collected and sociable like I had when I was younger. I seem to have this affliction where I look longingly and unquenchingly at life, despite my cup having runneth over healthily. And I'm someone who has TONS of free time and enough capital to travel anywhere at anytime. It's depressing really, watching the days and weeks and months and years fly by.
Just control what you can and accept what you can't. Not travelling just because of what others think is the very thing you will regret miserably if you don't just do it anyway. Even if for whatever reasons you don't enjoy it. In fact, even if you know you won't, you might as well still do it.
Hope you have fun.
my friend travels to dominican republic, colombia, and chile alone all the time and always gets some nice looking women over there to accompany him.
Every time I travel alone I get people telling me how weird I am for doing it and accusing me of being a sex tourist. They get especially angry when I mention talking to women over there they get all
>LEAAAVE WOMMEENN ALLOOONNNEEE REEEEEEEEEEEE
It's not cringe, but you have to be a highly self-motivated person to get the most out of it. Even that's something you can work on though.
no
do you really want to wait till you and a buddy have a schedule that aligns to go somewhere? because chances are it won't happen
just tell them you're going and if they can make it good if not also good
Okay so, I traveled abroad with my ex (friendzoned). That might seem like a recipe for disaster, but it was actually perfect. We knew each other well enough so that we can get through the stressful shit together without worrying about someone having an autistic meltdown, and we could help each other out, keep each other in check, split prices, hatefrick to get the coom urge out of the way...and then once we were there we both did our own thing occasionally meeting up for dinner (if we were bored). It was absolutely fantastic.
That was the most moronic piece of text I’ve read today
You sound like a dumb c**t. It's not even the subject of the thread.
No it isn't but what is cringe (at least for me) is going to party/clubbing alone
Other than that, travelling alone isn't cringe