Is it worth living abroad and travelling in your 20s? Has anyone had their friendships, relationships with family, etc be strained because of it? Do you regret it? How has it impacted your career?
I want to travel and not waste my 20s rotting away in my hometown (or my other option of paying rent to live in overpriced downtown when Id rather travel) but I am scared I will end up more alone than I already am. If anyone can offer their experiences that would be great. I feel completely lost and feel like I am wasting time
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Speaking to you from the extreme tail end of my 20s. Totally unremarkable 20s that were all about having plans and then letting them all rot. Do whatever you fear to do, homosexual, asap. The feeling of having those years wasted is absolutely vile.
>friendships, relationships with family, etc be strained because of it?
stay home - long for overseas
go overseas - miss events at home
tough choice anon
you can never guarantee what relationships will stay intact.
you stay home - all your mates move away for work, or become depressed loners, or shack up with a horrible partner
you go away - all your mates have a tightknit friend group and hangout regularly and do fun activities together.
making friends typically easiest at school or a job - so if you are studying or working abroad it it can happen. some people have better personalities at making friends from a hostel/tour group/ finding other expats or like minded people.
it seems to be mostly bisexual alternative lifestyle women that find each other and make fast friendships abroad
family i love my parents but they'd rather i be out doing something than at home doing nothing (though they would love if i had a steady job near home too - i dont see that option in the short term)
extended family - i really like going to get togethers with cousins aunts and uncles but im not really close to any of them personally but its still important
also, as you get older - not everyone has a regular friend group they meet frequently - instead may meet once a year or a handful of times. if people start having kids it tapers off more.
i enjoy being with friends and family but im also not bothered being alone (there are limits) and frequently need some alone time now if staying with a group
>stay home - long for overseas
>go overseas - miss events at home
so much this
The career thing only really matters if you have some bullshit degree with bullshit skills to show for it.
If you don't actually have a skill set to fall back on when you're attempting to get back in the workforce, especially in this economic environment, I would suggest developing them before embarking on this quarter life crisis adventure.
I am currently still trying to make something out of my career or take up something that can have the possibility of remote work. My degree is somewhat bullshit but my job has some prospects to it.
>you stay home - all your mates move away for work, or become depressed loners, or shack up with a horrible partner
you go away - all your mates have a tightknit friend group and hangout regularly and do fun activities together.
making friends typically easiest at school or a job - so if you are studying or working abroad it it can happen. some people have better personalities at making friends from a hostel/tour group/ finding other expats or like minded people.
Most of my friends are from high school and in my hometown. With my generation most people still live with my parents. I feel complacent here but I am scared to go away and then realize all that distance results in the breaking of the frienship.
Part of me does want to make up for sexual experiences I simply cant have being at home and with no logistics. I could move out but I dont feel like paying that much in rent and going on dates to jestermaxx for American roasties. If I was in college it was somewhat easy to frick "for free" but now I am fully open to just going somewhere with easy lays and accessible prosituttion
>easy lays and accessible prosituttion
Nothing wrong with that, so long as you at least try the former first and only use the latter to fall back on if you fail hopelessly.
Yeah I have no problem with either really. My issue is going through hoops when I want sex. Knowing a woman gave it up to chad for minimal effort while she would make me simp for her is moronic to me, which I know she prob did in 2023.
>scared to go away and then realize all that distance results in the breaking of the frienship.
friendships can fade sure but many friendships become less interactive as we get older when people have jobs and their own families
if there is no falling out - if you move back nearby and you're free and they're free you'll be able to hangout. sure people change and maybe you aren't clicking like you once did but that happens staying at home too.
there are a handful lifelong friends you'd talk to regularly but if you look at your friends majority are completely different after 10 years - maybe nice to have reunions but they won't all be your go to hangs regardless if you go away.
now everywhere has their own social structure and things can differ but western english speaking country unless as a settled down adult there is a social hangout you go to with all the same crew that lasts til middle age, there will be turnover through the years
Depends how autistic you are and where you want to go. It's impossible for me to say for certain, but judging by how moronic I was in my 20s I would have been eaten alive by the rip-off artists in Thailand had I found the place before my 30s. I feel that having one normal relationship at 32 and then banging a load of hookers after that ended, in my home country, probably prepared me a bit for the real world, especially the emotional baggage, that many face out there. Even so it was still a bit of a headfrick, but a managable one, just about.
Disregard everything if you're a normie, or just not obsessed with making up for lost ground sexually; you'll probably be fine.
OP here, forgot to mention I have around 40k in liquid cash not tied up in retirement or other investments and assets.
I'm 26, I travel with my gf and it's pretty fun
I am sorry but travelling with a gf sounds miserable. its bad enough travelling with friends. Imagine having someone constantly whining and b***hing while on the trip. Plus you cant even try to get girls or go whoring. What the frick is the point
>constantly whining and b***hing
Sounds like you've only gotten low quality women if any
i understand if you are from a culture where you have arranged marriages or just look for a fertile woman to pump out children and then try to spend as little amount of time with her, but if you're not why not seek a gf that is enjoyable to spend time with?
It depends, wouldn’t mind short term gf in a country in staying at
It depends.
I started cooming in Thailand when I was 26 after losing all my friends during my blackpill anger phase. Since that initially two week trip, I’ve subsequently went on a 6 month trip, and then a 15 month trip that I just got back from in March 2022
I hate America and western women so there’s absolutely nothing compelling me to get a stable career or settle down. I plan to job hop indefinitely for 1-2 years at a time and then quit my job and go coom for 6mo-1yr. I do max my Roth IRA and have an emergency fund of 6 months at all times.
The memories and experiences from my cooming sustain me and are genuinely a driving force in my life. I get up and go to work on time everyday and save every penny I can in order to set the stage for my next cooming adventure.
So again, in my opinion, it depends on what your priorities are. My priorities are being free, cooming, and traveling. You should travel. Youth and vitality are something you absolutely do not want to squander. I say that as a 32 year old. My energy has declined by 10-20% and I know it’s only going to get worse. You have plenty of time to make money.
GET A REMOTE JOB and this will solve both your problems
>Is it worth living abroad and travelling in your 20s? Has anyone had their friendships, relationships with family, etc be strained because of it? Do you regret it? How has it impacted your career?
These are questions you will only ever know the answer to once you've done them.
You have a once in a generation chance here: approximately 2-3 years of your 20s were taken from you because of coof and lockdowns. That can't be blamed on you. Now that the world has fully opened up again, this is your invitation to do it right now before that blame shifts onto you.
Do NOT wait, do it right now.
>I am scared I will end up more alone than I already am
The gays on here will tell you to travel,so will be the devil's advocate.
If you travel a lot and live remotely, you can end up alone, yes.
Being far aways makes you forgetable even from your own parents even (if you've lived abroad for more than 10 years). It's not the only reason to end up alone but it's one of the main.
There's a french motto that says something like "far from tge eyes, far from the heart.".