How do you normally meet the locals as a solo traveller?
I've always been too shy or uncertain about it.
I went to vacation skinnyfat once and it was fucking bad, got threatened by rando chads to GTFO of a bar. Got swole went back 2 years later and everyone was friendly, easy to strike up convos with girls. or they hit on me first
This, im gonna be real dating in the west is hard even if you’re good looking. In shittholes if you’re good looking you’re gonna drown in pussy. But you gotta look good tho. If you’re fat, ugly, short or skinny you’ll just look like a loser that has no hoes in his home country. I know for experience dont worry. When I was in costa rica 3 years ago I was pretty chunky and socially awkward. Right now i’m in mexico buff as fuck and I worked on my social skills and girl giving me looks left and right everywhere I go even had a couple come up to me and ask for my socials. Tinder is booming ( it was booming too 3 years ago) but this time I actually get to smash the good looking ones. Guys hit the gym, if you got bad skin fix it, if you got bad teeth fix them, if you need to work on your “game”. Go on dates with any women in your home country. If you’re not gratuated get a job where you socialize. Idk just be the better version of yourself. When you’re gonna land in these foreign countries you will feel like a king
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I went to vacation skinnyfat once and it was fucking bad, got threatened by rando chads to GTFO of a bar. Got swole went back 2 years later and everyone was friendly, easy to strike up convos with girls. or they hit on me first
Be attractive
Dont be unattractive
I think I've got this part.
fuck it dude if you act like a retard you are never going to see them again so it doesn't matter, just do whatever
Okay but where/how do you meet local people? I don't want to be a bunghole.
Try watching some youtube travel channels where they talk to the locals like https://www.youtube.com/@KurtCaz/videos
It should give you an idea of how to act and present yourself. Imagine you're him and consider how you would react in those situations.
My takeaway is, be engaged but don't be committed. If they're not interested in talking or engaging, then don't try to force it and just move on to someone else, respect their boundaries.
Be friendly but have your own boundaries and don't be taken advantage of.
Be open/honest about who you are and what you're doing (i.e. a tourist, just arrived in this city/country x days ago).
Be interested in who they are and what they do, their story, everyone has a different life and there's always something you can learn by listening, and maybe it'll be nothing and you'll move on, or maybe it'll be someone that is fun to be around and wants to hang around for a bit. Ask them questions like their job, or if they're from the area, how long they've been here, etc. Try to think of things to followup on if they're receptive to talking.
As for overcoming shyness/uncertainty, I'm the same way and idk what you can do about that except push yourself outside your comfort zone. Remember this is your life and you have control over what you want to do with it.
One trick you can try is to think about it like a job, surely if you worked at a store or customer service you would fulfill your duties of your job and overcome your shyness to do that and talk to coworkers and customer. So just think of meeting people and getting to know them as your job, you have a general outline of things to talk about and get a feel for them, and you can have the confidence knowing you'll never see them again when you go home.
Depends on the country a bit, but the easiest way is to be interesting/have something in common.
Super easy ways: >go to a sports bar >go play pool somewhere >go to a hotel bar that has locals drinking in it (easy to find in some countries, harder in others), as you're more likely to find people alone >go see some live music, whether it's casual open mic or something bigger >find events on sites like meetup.com and eventbrite
Harder: >be outgoing and assertive, and be prepared for knock-backs, especially if language is an issue >just put yourself into situations rather than trying to be super organised, some of my best 'local' experiences have been totally random >depending on the country and how proud people are, just ask them about the area and often they'll show you around >again, depending on the country, talk to older people and charm them, then they'll often try to pie off their son/daughter onto you
These are the true options. I'm a metalfag and I find metal pubs or rock bars or shit where ever I go and I always am able to find cool bros to hang out with, who usually take me to other places I would have never heard about like street parties and shit.
Be attractive
This.
I went to vacation skinnyfat once and it was fucking bad, got threatened by rando chads to GTFO of a bar. Got swole went back 2 years later and everyone was friendly, easy to strike up convos with girls. or they hit on me first
Be attractive
Dont be unattractive
This, im gonna be real dating in the west is hard even if you’re good looking. In shittholes if you’re good looking you’re gonna drown in pussy. But you gotta look good tho. If you’re fat, ugly, short or skinny you’ll just look like a loser that has no hoes in his home country. I know for experience dont worry. When I was in costa rica 3 years ago I was pretty chunky and socially awkward. Right now i’m in mexico buff as fuck and I worked on my social skills and girl giving me looks left and right everywhere I go even had a couple come up to me and ask for my socials. Tinder is booming ( it was booming too 3 years ago) but this time I actually get to smash the good looking ones. Guys hit the gym, if you got bad skin fix it, if you got bad teeth fix them, if you need to work on your “game”. Go on dates with any women in your home country. If you’re not gratuated get a job where you socialize. Idk just be the better version of yourself. When you’re gonna land in these foreign countries you will feel like a king
I think I've got this part.
Okay but where/how do you meet local people? I don't want to be a bunghole.
Try watching some youtube travel channels where they talk to the locals like https://www.youtube.com/@KurtCaz/videos
It should give you an idea of how to act and present yourself. Imagine you're him and consider how you would react in those situations.
My takeaway is, be engaged but don't be committed. If they're not interested in talking or engaging, then don't try to force it and just move on to someone else, respect their boundaries.
Be friendly but have your own boundaries and don't be taken advantage of.
Be open/honest about who you are and what you're doing (i.e. a tourist, just arrived in this city/country x days ago).
Be interested in who they are and what they do, their story, everyone has a different life and there's always something you can learn by listening, and maybe it'll be nothing and you'll move on, or maybe it'll be someone that is fun to be around and wants to hang around for a bit. Ask them questions like their job, or if they're from the area, how long they've been here, etc. Try to think of things to followup on if they're receptive to talking.
As for overcoming shyness/uncertainty, I'm the same way and idk what you can do about that except push yourself outside your comfort zone. Remember this is your life and you have control over what you want to do with it.
One trick you can try is to think about it like a job, surely if you worked at a store or customer service you would fulfill your duties of your job and overcome your shyness to do that and talk to coworkers and customer. So just think of meeting people and getting to know them as your job, you have a general outline of things to talk about and get a feel for them, and you can have the confidence knowing you'll never see them again when you go home.
fuck it dude if you act like a retard you are never going to see them again so it doesn't matter, just do whatever
>act like a retard
>arrested and raped in a foreign prison
Depends on the country a bit, but the easiest way is to be interesting/have something in common.
Super easy ways:
>go to a sports bar
>go play pool somewhere
>go to a hotel bar that has locals drinking in it (easy to find in some countries, harder in others), as you're more likely to find people alone
>go see some live music, whether it's casual open mic or something bigger
>find events on sites like meetup.com and eventbrite
Harder:
>be outgoing and assertive, and be prepared for knock-backs, especially if language is an issue
>just put yourself into situations rather than trying to be super organised, some of my best 'local' experiences have been totally random
>depending on the country and how proud people are, just ask them about the area and often they'll show you around
>again, depending on the country, talk to older people and charm them, then they'll often try to pie off their son/daughter onto you
These are the true options. I'm a metalfag and I find metal pubs or rock bars or shit where ever I go and I always am able to find cool bros to hang out with, who usually take me to other places I would have never heard about like street parties and shit.
Talk to them in their home language, even if your attempt is bad. They appreciate the effort.
Language exchange cafes
Pick up football
Volunteer work
Alumni groups
Special interest/hobby groups
Expat groups - locals will attend anyway
Ask questions, and ask follow up questions. You don't have to be some extrovert Chad pick up artist. Just be curious.