Should people stay at hostels if they have no intentions of socializing?

I remember a time 2014/2015 when I first started staying in many hostels, where almost every place I checked in was a lively convening spot for young travelers from around the world, with a positive curiosity towards meeting the new characters who walked in, and eventually hanging out/going out to explore.
Cut to 2019/2020/2021, I pick up on a traveling binge again and this time things have quite changed. Scowling faces of longterm trade laborer teams who'd take up the kitchen all night, but you'd barely get one terse word out of. Tourists who come as groups, walking around confused about where they're at, and annoyed they'd ever have to speak to anyone outside their friend group. And then the longterm guests, who slowly build up a hostel clique over weeks, and then rear their head very unwelcomingly at any new guest walking through the door, as if to say "don't even think about infiltrating"... I don't really recall there ever even BEING any longterm guests back when I started, outside of the staff. And let's not get into the increase in legit crazies and mental cases using hostels as their rehab centers or wtv...
Since 2021 I've stayed in a few hostels and it's more of the same. Now most common areas have the charm of a hospital lunchroom, with dour moody people staring down at whatever, almost looking dissatisfied they have to be in a hostel. But I remember a time when you could walk in, plop down, and jump straight into a conversation with whichever person from Japan, Mauritius, or Germany happened to be around.

I know the "no one owes you their time! Leave ppl alone!!" brigade will be coming to this thread, but is it crazy to have an expectation for the open exciting warm vibe I once remember? For that to be a sort of bar of staying in hostels, and if you're not down for it you should be booking hotels instead?

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    no anon you're quite right. the golden age of staying in hostels just happened to be at the time that you started staying in them
    just like the golden age of music, movies, video games etc just happened to be at the time when you were 15-24 years old
    everything that happened before was simply leading up to the time when you would start exploring the world, and everything since has been a pale shadow of what you experienced
    and everyone else feels exactly the same

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Shit thread

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Now that there're better ways to socialize with people, only ugly weirdos use hostels

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      bro this was too soon

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I’m an ugly weirdo myself. And the hostel bunch are weirder, older, and warier than ever. They are not like they used to be. They have lost to social media where not getting likes is just a waste of time

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      what are the ways?

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    There was a distinct phone zombie vibe as early as 2015. I'm sure it's gotten worse.

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    tldr
    Open a fricking blog, b***h.

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    something from the way you write tells me you are just extremely annoying and or autistic so no one enjoys your company. hope this helps.

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    No, they ruin the vibe for the rest of us. If you are going to go and be glued to your phone like an aspie all night just go to an hotel and f off

  8. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    People are there for the location. Hostels are cheap so freaks stay there too. Ofc they don't want to chat with people they don't know. Its not 1954

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Grumpy oldgays and anti-social dork homosexuals are bad hostel guests, but the migrant laborers are the worst. They never clean up after themselves, and act resentful toward cheapskate leisure tourists. White women don't go near a hostel that has become overrun with long-term "guests" who are out working all day, leave half-eaten food rotting in the dorm room, never wash their laundry, etc. Last winter I stayed at a few hostels in Southeast Asia, was disappointed every time. So many oldgays and non-social body language. Only one night in Melaka did a young and insistently friendly Sri Lankan guy get a French roastie and myself to put down our devices, crack open a couple beers and engage in a real-world traveler conversation. He spoke decent French, but the roastie was all like "I'm not from France anymore" and didn't want to speak French with him, kek. Now that I turned 30 and have achieved oldgay status, I don't intend to stay in any more hostels.

  9. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I actually spent my first time in a hostel recently and I find it's 50/50 depending on the person. Actually talked to one guy from Chile who as cool although I was pretty tired and only used the hostel cause it was close to the airport. One guy offered me a Heineken funnily enough but I was 3 beers deep in so I had to decline. Was gonna offer him to come to my table and hang but the time slipped so I stuck around to charge my electronics.
    Also holy shit it's so hard to sleep unless you're comatose drunk. The amount of noise people make after curfew actually angered me ESPECIALLY the women who have zero courtesy for people trying to sleep. Although somehow that hostel, even at like €30 euros a night was cleaner than my airbnb which had a wienerroach infestation so I guess it was a good deal in the end ngl. But honestly if the hotel nearby wasn't so frustrating to book online I would've done a hotel instead given the time I had to catch my flight at.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      are you ok, anon? glad you turned down that 4th beer, 3 is an outrageously dangerous number as it is.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Nice sarcasm lad. Considering I'm solo traveling and prior to 3 beers had with and whisky I just wanted to drink water and go to bed without being too out of it so some smartass nafri didn't try to steal my shit.
        >inb4 I'm paranoid
        Don't care. Considering Spain's reputation I'm not taking a chance.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          That's why I travel in Spain with a Congoese ID of a random black man, a GPS tracker, a terrorist manifesto, a bag of fentanyl and a knife.
          When I'm inevitably mugged, I share the live GPS co-ordinates with the cops and get him deported.

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