Gf wanted to go on vacation with her best friend she hasn't seen in years just them alone for "bonding" whatever that means, so I told her I won't let her, I'm no cuck I wanna come with. And she said fine but now the friends bf wants to come too and they still wanna go out alone together but idk if I wanna be stuck with some random dude for a week and I still don't know what they wanna do alone. What would you do in my position? Would you go?
I'd break up with her if she insists on going
>I'd break up with my girlfriend because she wants to spend time with her female friend
Imagine being this insecure. Do you lock your girlfriend inside your basement every day too?
Imagine being this much of a white knight do you press or starch your cape super simp?? By the way you dropped your card
How deeply insecure you must be that you are threatened by your GF having a female friend.
Women who go on holidays without their partners cheat, it's a fact
>it's a fact
That you have no proof to back up.
have a nice day control freak
After you, cuck
>you're a cuck because you don't freak out over your girlfriend having female friends
You're damaged. Sooner or later she will break up with you because of your controlling.
If she is like the girls I have known or met, her best friend that she has not meet or spoken to in years might have been someone that "gave her advice and approval". Your current girlfriend probably met you after her and her best friend stopped talking to each other. I knew a girl (who was my "ex", thats another story) who was so dependent on the advice and opinions of her friends that she was whimsical and fickle to an extreme. Another girl who was obese and was the "mother hen" (she assumed herself to protect the other girls). For a girl to have a functioning relationship with that personality and in those groups of friends she would be inclined to delay announcing to her friends that she met someone, is seeing someone or has a relationship. In first instance, if she is clinging onto and lingering the group as she has known them (and they, her) for years and they allow her the courtesy of their company and the guy she met does not "secure" her "position" in her friend group, doesnt get the reaction she expects and time to be heard (instead of hearing others 80% to 99% of the time). She is very likely going to stop talking to the guy - even if she likes him. Likewise in the second instance. Other girls in those groups realised the way the group and that one friend would react and to have any chance of a relationship they delayed telling their friends that they met a guy.
So it seems your gf after being hyped she would consult her best friend for advice frequently. The best friend would be flattered by it and tempted to exert control over your gf's life not to mention dealing with her less pleasant attributes (jealousy for example). Your gf might not even realise it until after 5 to 10 years, if that.
Her and best friend are doing a very millennial chick thing, they probably have millennial chick sisters/relatives or subscribe to some millennial chick's videos/podcasts.
Frick you c**t and frick r*ddit the shithole.
People here are mentally ill
Post weight and meds
And another thing. You are just mad, you are just angry that as soon as you met a guy you contacted your friends ASAP and you didnt get the reaction you expected. They were not "WOW! You are so cool please talk without interruptions for an hour" or cool girls inviting just you to their house, no, they were like "Okay, cool.". Your other friends that hover around the cool girls pretty much talked discouraged you to meeting with that guy as you were upholding your gatekeeping. Guy after guy, time after time you didnt get to have a boyfriend or met very few guys. You became so upset and outraged that your other friends met guys they never told you about while the cool girls can announce whenever they like and despite your "advice" and gatekeeping they went ahead with those guys anyway. Its like a few girls came to realise that to have an opportunity at a relationship or even a guy's company they would refrain in telling their friends to foster some kind of relationship. Whereas you, you kept announcing that you met a guy, as some kind of "girl code", only for the gatekeeping and discouragement to affect you in such way that you ghosted and responded passive-aggressively to him.
We are zoomers but we are from a small town, and here zoomers act like millennials, still hang out with the same friends from hs, date the same people from hs and talk about shit that happened in hs. From what I see on /adv/ most normal zoomers have no friends
If you act like a millennial guy (not an NPC) you are more or less okay. If the girls act like millennial chicks that's "AIDS" fr fr no cap. Figuratively speaking.
>still hang out with the same friends from hs, date the same people from hs and talk about shit that happened in hs
Would that not behoove you (compel you) to sort things out for the community to function?
>date the same people from hs and talk about shit that happened in hs
Case in point. I mean you have somewhat fond memories maybe.
>From what I see on /adv/ most normal zoomers have no friends
I dont quite understand that (I do sympathise). Maybe GenZ has outright foregone the proverbial rat race of social groups whereby the outliers and outsiders try to be part of the main group while the main group ignores them and makes them the butt of the jokes. For millennial cliques, the main groups collapsed after the outliers and outsiders stopped hovering about and offering the "main group" their company. With the main group directing their toxicity and gatekeeping at each other, effectively collapsing the clique.
cliques, the main groups collapsed after the outliers and outsiders stopped hovering about and offering the "main group" their company. With the main group directing their toxicity and gatekeeping at each other, effectively collapsing the clique.
No, there's still tons of cliques where I'm from
also this; hope she takes a vacation to my place, b***h boy
My suspicion is this is not her friend's boyfriend but some dude for fun time. It alright they wanna spend time alone, but that she planned an entire vacation is fricked up. The fact she considered this is sign enough to break up.
Fun time for her friend tho right?
If only you knew.
Yjk Jamal be railing both chick for a whole straight week while cuck OP plays Mario
They still wanna go out just the two of them to do "girls night" while me and him are supposed to go out or stay in together. The place they rented is by the beach.
>They still wanna go out just the two of them to do "girls night"
She is 100% trying to frick her best friend.
Women get together and have conversations about how they're gonna go out together and "find hot guys" and get all giddy and excited about it. So they might be lesbos, or they might be a couple of prostitutes. Who knows.
It's a very common powerplay for women who are reconnecting with an old female friend to assert her social controls over other women. It's a huge powerplay to encourage them to cheat on their partner. When they were friends in the past, you weren't in the picture and she wasn't competing with you. Now, she needs to prove that she overpower you as the new boyfriend. Easy: get her drunk and bring her around good looking guys and encourage her to cheat, make her feel like she's being stupid and ruining a good night for nothing if she isn't willing to "have fun". Make it sound like the new bf is ruining her life and they can't even have bare minimum fun together, use thought-terminating clichés, etc. This method works very well and is more common than you think.
Women's control over other women is more important than you'd ever imagine.
Hm, and you think OP's girlfriend is vulnerable to this?
Honestly yeah it might be the case.
Personally if someone was trying to get me to betray my loyalties as part of a fricking shit test then they wouldn't be my friend.
Mutt's law
He was right:
Where do the two girls want to go to vacation?
Jamaica, why?
just break up, save the trouble.
Not Jamaica, a beach town in Florida
What if we follow them, without them knowing?
Measure her virginal circumference before and after she hits the town and make sure that you take note of any unusual smells or tastes down there to find out.
The only correct answer, finally SOMEONE said it
Wear a Burger King crown on the plane.
Jamaica is fricking terrible. I hate all those 3rd world island countries so much. I can't understand why people keep touring there. Just stick to the Virgin islands, or anything still owned by a first world country like the Dutch and maybe sometimes the French.
Jamaica/carribean islands is just SEA for women
Where are you going? and do a double date first before anything is set in stone.
It's likely that she was hoping to go on a trip with her friend so they could frick everyone they could and when you decided to come, her friend also invited her boyfriend/fling to come, and of course they want to go out together - he wants to come as well! So they will leave you both in the hotel room but they will still go out and frick and suck everything that moves you idiot. You HAVE to cancel this whole holiday as soon as you can man, seriously, cancel the whole thing. If she goes, even if you go, she will end up fricking someone else.
>they will leave you both in the hotel room but they will still go out and frick and suck
How do you people feed yourself in the morning without tripping over a bull's dick
Even my captcha knows what you are
>I won't let her, I'm no cuck I wanna come with
Not a great sign for relationship longevity
>idk if I wanna be stuck with some random dude for a week
You seem like a complete b***h to be around
>Would you go?
Hell fricking no, I got shit to do
The first thing to notice is how divided everyone is here, and realize there's an important lesson to be learned.
The truth is, cheating is painfully common and it's often happening at a time where a partner is INSISTING that you not come. Yes, it's totally normal to be uncomfortable with this.
The only reason why "just always trust!" is such a common mentality is for no reason other than survivorship bias. When people blindly trust, the relationship is much more stress free, and the relationship lasts. I'm not saying it's right, but it's just how it is. Pretty much anyone who has positive views towards relationships is because they trust blindly, and haven't noticed any issues in their relationship.
The only reason monogamy worked for the last several millennia is because of this - Fathers raised children that weren't theirs, and took care of unfaithful wives, and assumed nothing was wrong.
The other side of the coin is that people do stuff all the time that seems suspicious but isn't cheating, and it would do much more damage do your relationship to show suspicion every time your partner tries to do something.
It's a bit of a black pill, and there's no right answer. Cheaters are everywhere, naive people are everywhere and suspicious-seeming innocent behavior is everywhere.
Good luck on whatever you decide.
She really didn't INSIST on me not coming, once I told her I wasn't letting her go alone and wanted to come with, she immediately accepted it.
But she's still planning to go out without you, right?
>they still wanna go out alone together
She had full control the entire time.
You moron, you seriously told her you wanted to go on this gay trip with them when really you just wanted to know why she wants to go out alone with her friend? lol that's why you're supposed to say what you mean and mean what you say, OP, not try to be a sneaky snake about it
Alright, now I want to know why she wants to go out with her friend alone too. Text that b***h right now and ask her
>What would you do in my position?
In animals that live in herds, either the males migrate or the females migrate when they reach puberty, to stop the herd from becoming inbred.
In humans, this manifests in females loving to travel. It's a breeding behaviour.
Your GF has, for whatever reason, decided she isn't sexually satisfied with you and is seeking other options.
Presumably she's attracted to her best friend.
That’s the biggest load of horse shit
stop with this shit. That applies to the most basic bottom barrel b***hes. Women worth anything won't do that. If you've got one of those anyways, don't plan on making her a housewife.
So what you're saying is that you don't trust your girlfriend? Why would you be in a relationship with someone that you don't trust?
Is she a good girl or a basic high maintenance hoe? Either trust her or dump her. If she was going to frick other guys anyways then she's not the one for you. Don't do the sentencing before the deed. You will hate yourself more if you ruin this relationship by your fear of cheating, than if she actually cheated. Then you can just be mad at her and get rid of her. In one of those scenarios you are the one who fricked up and you're still upset, in the other she fricked up and you're still upset. Better to have not fricked up, at least you got a ride too.
if she cheats on this trip it means she was never trustworthy in the first place. I'd let her go and just wait to see how she acts/what happens