How to drink alone when travelling?
My social anxiety prevents me from meeting new people but it also makes it very difficult for me to drink alone. Most people there are with someone else and sometimes they look at me strangely.
I thought that it would be easy in Japan because they have these standing izakayas and whatnot but I was usually still the only person who came there alone.
What's a non-cringe way to drink alone in different countries
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Just don't stare at people or get sloppy drunk. I've never felt weird drinking alone and I've never judged someone drinking alone.
Stfu homosexual. no one cares or looks at you
I never understood the “hurr durr I can’t drink alone!” As if some power prevents you or you look any different. It comes down to vanity, they think everyone is looking at them for some dumb reason.
>Muh anxiety prevents me from
Bullshit. It's not a condition like fricking type 1 diabetes that you have to accomodate. Social anxiety comes from faulty reasonings that create a negative feedback loop you have to correct by running through the entire thing in a rational way.
>randos look at me strangely
>This means i'm probably doing something weird !
>So that means he's judging me for being a weirdo !
>A stranger in a foreign country thinks i'm a weirdo ? What are the consequences of such a thing happening to me ?
Seriously. Sit the frick down and answer this question out loud for yourself to understand how insane this sounds. This is literally what therapists ask you to do, by the way. You're freaking out because you didn't think the entire thing through so you're afraid of some abstract, vague thing you didn't conceptualize quite clearly. Don't let it grow into a full blown compulsion by not confronting it.
Basic mental hygiene.
>just don't have anxiety
>just b urself
great advice as always
It unironically is.
Just talk to people and stop being a weirdo, OP. It’s not difficult or complicated.
>It’s not difficult or complicated.
Some of us can talk but don't want to. We don't particularly enjoy it, when it's for the sake of it, and it's mentally tiring. Like working on vacation, frick that.
>Some of us don't want to talk to people
Ok, then don't. You just won't meet people this way, which is what the original post is asking about.
Stay in a hostel if you wish to meet people easily in other countries.
This.
I don't want to talk to anyone, or leave my apartment, but you can sure bet I am desperately lonely and want more friends, some friends, a friend.
Frick me you can't have both you idiot. "Wah wah wah I want friends but I also hate people and never want to go out of my house", frick I hate anti-social people, and depressed and anxious people. They really dig their own graves their entire lives, and some of them even have the audacity to blame society or 'brain chemicals' for it.
>just stop being depressed bro
ahhhhhh
that's it
thanks a lot friend
Literally that is the answer though, depression is 99% a choice, a lifestyle and attitude.
Everyone goes through the same trials and tribulations that you do, those trials and tribulations may be different from yours but I assure you they are no less valid. Yes, some people are born into wealthy powerful families and are lucky to be able to not have to work or try to look for a job, a lot of these people are secretly suffering from loneliness or feeling purposeless behind closed doors. Robin Williams and Chester Bennington, 2 of the most famous people alive, killed themselves.
A depressed person encounters these troubles in life and just cowers and starts exhibiting behaviours that give them more troubles. A normal person - a smart person - encounters troubles and tries to think of solutions and then TRIES them.
And the medical industry isn't helping. By telling you that your depression is caused by "chemical imbalances" and can be cured by simply taking medications that frick your hormones which cause the genuine "chemical imbalances" you never had in the first place.
Read awaken the giant within or destructive emotions or something. Maybe get a sheet of paper and write some little goals for the week, things that you know you should do but haven't been doing, things that will break the negative cycles you've been going through. It's so easy to take these steps.
But the worst thing is, a depressed person won't do that. A depressed person won't take action, they'll just give you that same tired response of "You're just telling me to not be depressed". Because the depressed person is not only lazy, I think a lot of them love being depressed, it's so much more comfortable to be able to say "my problems aren't caused by my laziness but instead by this magical medical thing I don't have any part in" and live in a victim mentality that turns you into being a spectator of your own life.
good post, thanks
I am 38
yea so?
nice strawman, tard. No one said anything about being yourself or removing your anxiety, but confronting it.
This is literally the same as an alcoholic trying to accomodate his drinking habits rather than facing the problem head on. Failure is acceptable, so long as you keep trying. The more you try, and the better your odds.Whereas if you simply try to find ways to drink that keeps you functional, it's only a matter of time until you fall into dysfunctionality.
moronic take. social anxiety isn't something you can rationalize out of. it's a muscle you have to train. expose yourself to awkward situations long enough and the awkwardness will go away. also alcohol helps that's why bars are bars .just don't overdo it
Based take. I basically grew out of it by not giving a shit.
I suffer from social anxiety aswell and haven't really met anyone on my trip so far, but I have never felt uncomfortable whilst drinking alone. Sitting in a busy bar just sippin' and watching people get progressively more drunk is very comfy to me.
dude just buy some cans in a supermarket and drink them in your room
dude no one is looking at you
you think it's weird to be at a bar alone? wtf?
even if they were, who gives a frick. you're in a foreign country, you can be anyone you want to be.
I will never understand anxietygays, like just don't care lol. I used to be like this when I was a freshman in high school, then I realized it was ME who was in control. fake it til you make it anon. drop ur balls already, quit being a pussy
there is never any reason good reason to drink alone in public
this. it's just pathetic
the reason to drink alone is to meet other people while drinking and hang out with them
it's a basic social activity
I believe its a pretty bad to develop a habit to go out and drink alone. Its a step up in degeneracy compared to going out to drink with your mates. cause you can always go to the bar alone when your feeling bored and lonely, and the habit just starts feeding into itself. long enough, you cant socialize or feel good without some alcohol in you.
Compared to drinking with friends, at least you are working to bring ppl together and on building relationships
makes sense, but the point is that if you don't have mates to drink with, then drinking is a good way to meet new people
Just go and drink. That said, in some countries it's indeed seen as a weirdo thing. I live in Brazil and, except for hotels, when you drink alone people tend to find you odd, either like "hey, get out of here creep" vibes or like "are you ok, m8? why are you sad?".
I also think is a bit right when he talks about developing a bad habit. I did have it for some years in my life. But nowadays I can go to a bar and just have a few drinks alone without any problems, albeit it's uncomon here.
But drinking alone sitting in front of the counter of a pub or in those bar/restaurant/cafes terraces, like in every country in central/eastern europe, it's really ok. And as a traveller you have the best excuse to drink alone anywhere.
tl;dr Just don't care.
>when you drink alone people tend to find you odd, either like "hey, get out of here creep" vibes or like "are you ok, m8? why are you sad?".
people only do this if you go out of your way to keep to yourself while you drink alone.
if you put the slightest bit of effort into being outgoing/confident/charistmatic by putting on a smile and engaging and asking questions from literally anyone around you you'll immediately see the relief on their faces that you're not just a complete anti-social weirdo.
you don't even have to try to hold a conversation if they're a bit standoffish like if they're just there to spend time together, then just move on and talk to someone else.
this is literally the only difference between a weirdo and someone cool that people want to hang around with
I have had more fun times drinking alone at bars than when I do have friends with me.
is right, just smile and get good at small talk, you end up meeting cool people and getting laid. And if you frick up a social interaction who fricking cares, you'll never see them again unless you make an effort to.
>t. gets sloppy drunk then bothers people already in a social group with his inane bullshit
I don't know how many times I need to post this but anxietycels abroad always have the easiest copout for starting a chat at a bar with literally anyone:
>Hey I'm from X and have been here Y days
>I love this country so far but wanted to get advice from a local, what's one thing I just have to do here before I go home?
That fricking simple to engage in conversation, if it goes well from there then keep going, if not then you got a tip to consider and can go back to solo drinking.
>but how do i just drink on my own?
you go to the bar, talk to the bartender and order a drink, then you sip it until its gone and pay your bill before leaving.
>b-b-but what about the opinions of total strangers i will never see again?
What about them? Either ignore them or talk to them. You can even do this at home to meet some seriously fun alcoholics. Stop caring.
If you're annoying, they'll tell you to frick off or stop talking to you. I was trashed drunk a while back and danced with 2 girls at a karaoke bar, the first told me to frick off when I made a move, the second was entirely into it and I took her home. It really is as easy as stop giving a frick about strangers but respect the bar staff.
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Go to Thailand, the tourist spots are full of losers drinking alone. I much prefered it to Japan purely for the fact that I felt far more invisible there unless I went somewhere off the tourist trail.
go to a place with live music, jazz band playing or something. then you aren't a sperg sitting alone looking at other people, you are a music connoisseur
I am the exact same OP and I don't win, even drinking in toilets to try and come out and just go in and sit down to a bar is so hard, people do seem to judge, it's more common in Asia though than in Australia I think? But yes it's so hard and when I do work up the courage because I never talk much I just spend 3 hours sitting alone getting cold in mental anguish and hell and then all of a sudden the nights over anyway, fricking sucks man. I need to meet people but can't.
ITT: Alcoholic americans coping
No one drinks alone if you go to a pub, it should be with friends. Last thing you want to look like is a creep or divorced dad taking up bar keeps time for you alone when they have real customers with real orders to serve.
If I go out on holiday it's easy for my friends to get a cheap flight on ryanair for a weekend down in a different country for a few days of drinking before they head back home for work on monday. How hard is that?
Divorced dad here. Picking up women my age solo at a bar is piss easy. It’s only creepy if I’m trying to act 23 again. Then again, most of the places I go to don’t have young people in them anyways.
Doubtful,
"So did you come here with friends?"
Divorced Dad "No I don't have any"
My answer to that question is always “Yeah I’m traveling for work” which isn’t a lie. Shits different when you’re middle aged. I can show up to an upscale wine or wienertail bar in a tie and it works because I have wrinkles on my face and salt and pepper hair. If I did that at 23 it’d look cringe. You also have no idea how soul crushingly lonely women my age are because most guys in my position are going after women 10+ years younger than them. To have anyone pay attention or talk to them is greatly appreciated.
>no one drinks alone in a pub
A pub? Probably not. A real bar? Yeah.
>you'll look like a creep!
No one legitimately gives a frick about anyone else at the bar. I've gone solo and outright spoken to a couple on a date only to have the boyfriend buy me a shot Macallan 18 after about an hours worth of laughs. The only thing the gf cared about was the fact that it was a pricey shot to gift.
Not a divorced dad but I'll play it:
>So did you come here with friends?
"My friends like shitty dive bars to get sugar on sugar on vodka, places like this aren't really their thing. How'd you end up here?"
It's that easy. Realistically, people won't even ask about friends if they see you alone because you're clearly there alone.
>No one legitimately gives a frick about anyone else at the bar.
This is the most american take possible.
Yes wait staff cares that they have to keep an eye on 1 single person rather than a group of friends they can get drinks for all at the same time.
Yes people do notice you taking up space that can mess up how others want to sit down and chat, have fun you know?
Then again you're probably so fat you look like 3 people and a full party of people
This is true in your kiddie bars where they are slinging pitchers of cheap beer or doing overpriced bottle service in some night club. You and I are going to very different places my guy.
They really don't care at all. Are you the solo diner autist from a few months ago because it's the same dumbass arguments all over again. The bar wants money, they'll take it from a solo drinker just as much as a group of three.
>taking up space
In a dive there's plenty of spots to stand even when the seats are full (this is actually a common occurrence at one of the most popular dives in my city actually, the few tables fill quick and everyone else stands around in groups or solo), at an actual upscale bar just sit at the bar and take a corner chair, swap places with a couple if you need to. This really isn't the issue you think it is.
>people notice you taking up space
I dont care about them, they should have come earlier if my one seat has fricked up their plans. You won't be asked to leave because some guy and his +1 want your chair nor will the staff spit in your drink.
I legitimately have to wonder if you've ever gone to a bar in your life with this kind of statement because it just runs so counter to every single experience I've had going solo that it's frankly unbelievable to me. The biggest irony of this is that if you actually talk to patrons, solo or not, you solve the "lone chair" problem automatically when you join them for a drink.
Shut the frick up and serve me wagie. As far as I'm concerned, I'm fod to you.
This post is exactly why it's your patriotic duty to abuse zoomers.
>If I go out on holiday it's easy for my friends to get a cheap flight on ryanair for a weekend down in a different country for a few days of drinking before they head back home for work on monday. How hard is that?
lol wtf it'd be moronic for someone in the east coast USA to fly to asia for a weekend, the flight alone will take 20 hours there, they'd be spending 90% of the entire weekend just going to the airport and flying.
It'd be the equivalent of a eurogay flying to Hawaii and then inviting his friends to come drinking just for the weekend lmao literally nobody would do that
I order my beer at the bar and sit down and drink it. I dont care about the other people and neither do they about me. Even if they do, I'll never see them again
Until they punch you in the head out the front cobber. ALSO you never know what's behind the door, especially true in Japan where you can open a door and find a hidden place, realise it's packed and everyone is in groups and you stand no chance to make new friends but by that point it's too hard...to go back
>Until they punch you in the head out the front cobber.
now why would that happen specifically to a dude just drinking his beer? not saying this doesn't happen, but it's a drinking culture thing, not a solo guy drinking thing
>ALSO you never know what's behind the door, especially true in Japan where you can open a door and find a hidden place, realise it's packed and everyone is in groups and you stand no chance to make new friends but by that point it's too hard...to go back
what the frick? you can literally enter a bar, check it out, see what's what, and nope the frick out of there if you notice the situation's like the one you made up.
Bullshit cobber, drinking alone in your cobbled suit trying to make friends, when the boys get rowdy they 100% come at you.
I revert to this, but all the pussy is outside my man
Anxiety threads are the most entertaining threads on SighSee. It's always some depressed sack-of-shit loser starting the thread saying "Wait, you guys actually go to other countries alone, and do stuff alone? That's impossible, everyone is watching me all the time, the moment I enter a building all eyes are on me, everyone else is a social watchdog assessing my very existence."
This is what I hate about depressed and anxious people. Their 'anxiety' is really a thinly-veiled narcissism and entitled attitude thinking that they're so interesting to other people that they instantly gain an audience wherever they go.
>thinking that they're so interesting to other people that they instantly gain an audience wherever they go.
meanwhile wherever they go ppl are like https://youtu.be/y4D9n00_hq8
Tremendously based and redpilled. Another thread I've been posting in is literally burgers outright using every excuse to not socialize. It's not that I make no effort, its society, its the feminist women, its the people, it's economics, its the lack of nice architecture, its anything and everything except my lack of effort, its all out of my control!
>stop being depressed
Literally yes, just stop. You outright said it yourself:
>im depressed because i have no friends!
>make friends? frick that i dont want to leave my apartment or talk to anyone!
>omg why am i depressed i dont know and there's nothing i can do to fix this!?
You've recognized the problem, and you've identified your own attitude as the roadblock. Curing your depression is literally as easy as just get the frick out of the house and actively try to make friends. Actively start conversations with anyone and everyone, get numbers, proactively invite people to do things with you and if they return the favor continue talking to them and hanging out. It's that easy, and you know it is because you outright told us why you're depressed, but just like anon said you blame your magic brain chemicals or whatever for your DAILY refusal to make a change for yourself. It's YOUR OWN FRICKING FAULT and no one else's that you've made zero effort in YEARS. Good news? Its up to YOU to make the change. This friday, no excuses, go to a bar and start talking to people, anyone and everyone and if you strike out go to the next bar over and do it again. Then on Saturday do it again, and next weekend, and the one after that. Want to stop being depressed? Put in the fricking work.
ah yes, i agree with the sentiment that people nowadays think they're depressed too easily. in many situations, you can indeed do what you described. in fact, this is what many therapists actually advise. go out and socialise, reflect, repeat.
but sometimes it's a tad more complex when actual serious issues are in play. personality disorders, ptsd and attachment disorders are actually really shitty things to have and can be a major hindrance in socialising with other people.
your advice is spot on for whiny people who either exaggerate or are falsely diagnosed. unfortunately, for the other group (which is probably way smaller, yet existent) it is the worst advice you could give.
i'd say alcohol (and any mind numbing substance, for that matter) isn't a great idea. to be going to a bar to drink alone and socialise with people requires one to have some balance, self-knowledge and a certain lack of care of what other people think, aka confidence.
>the advice works but...
here comes the excuses
>what if you're legitimately mentally ill? If this is true then the advice just won't work
then go see a shrink and fix your issues, like wtf kind of point is this? "oh no i have ptsd and cant socialize" well then go get your ptsd treated, duh. This shit is also moronic as hell, a close friend of mine is an ex-marine who's almost been killed multiple times in combat. His PTSD is legit not some bullshit trauma from being unable to afford a mercedes in america, and even his shit is as simple as "don't share a bed with me or wake me up suddenly and you'll be fine" so diagnosis alone isn't even a guarantee that you're fricked until you see a therapist.
>alcohol isn't a great idea
Don't need to get alcohol to socialize at a bar, especially if the place has a pool table or dartboard.
>you need confidence to be able to drink alone and socialize
And where is that confidence in social skills going to come from when you lack social skills? Right, you have to try and fail a lot to get it.
You're a massive b***h no different from the depressed moron who refuses to touch grass
>your advice is good but i've got mental problems i wont deal with!
>oh but im not confident so i'll just never talk to anyone to avoid an awkward conversation!
>oh but i can't go here and its a bad idea to try this and...
nothing but trash excuses
>go to bar
>order a drink
>look at a patron who also got a drink
>skip the first three lines of the smoking post
wow it all still works perfectly
>How to drink alone when travelling?
Excessively
>Social anxiety
Same. My last 2 nights in Tokyo I just went to 7/11 because I couldn't handle it. It sucks
I started doing it more recently and I wished I had sooner. I've met some lifelong friends going to microbreweries overseas and just talking to other people.
Also, I always try and seek out metal or punk bars because they're the most accepting frickers on the planet who see someone drink alone and will just come talk to you or not be weirded out you're trying to talk to them. Had a killer night in Budapest at Blastbeat Bar, just stumbled in and started talking music and whatever else with randos there. They closed the door and we partied for hours there after closing. Also went to one punk bar in Sicily that I forget the name of and some guys asked me if it was true that Americans don't know geography so I told them to quiz me on European capitals, after every ten I got right they'd buy me a shot. Named them all and got like four free shots of whiskey out of the deal and went to an illegal after hours street party with them. One of the most fun nights of my life all through just going and starting the night from drinking alone.
tldr; don't be a homosexual op, find a dive bar or shitty but popular local bar and just go have a few drinks.
Just people watch, and dont take yourself so serious. Find a spot bar etc that is comfy to you and drink, slowly.
Just drink you fricking moron. You think I drink to be “social”? I drink because I love alcohol. The way it tastes, feels, and makes me feel, it’s all fricking amazing. Learn to love the alcohol for itself and you won’t have an issue. I drink by myself all the fricking time until either
a) I finish and leave
b) I talk to someone and we start hanging out
c) someone talks to me and we hang out
Stop being autistic and just enjoy yourself. Honestly just listen to some music if you have to, but feel the Dionysian spirit and let loose.
The key is finding good bars. Too many damn bars are empty.
you're clearly not drinking enough
There is nothing what people hate more than the bar drunk who's there alone trying to get in other people tables. Frick off you creep, there is a reason why you're alone and others came with friends, stay in your lane.
shoo shoo demoralizationposter
What's the point of drinking outside if you're too "socially anxious" to meet people?
Just buy your drinks from the supermarket and drink in your room, it'll be much cheaper and you'll avoid feeling self-conscious.
That said, if you're just going to drink alone then you could just do it in your home country.
i'm french everyone here does it in the first place, it's a national pastime
every time i go somewhere the first thing i do is order a glass of wine sit at the terrace and smoke a cigarette
never seen anyone looking at me strangely
I am Australian and it's very much frowned up, so you're saying when I am in France I can get some drinks alone?
Yeah of course, a few times a week after work i go to the cafe and have a beer to relax, there are always plenty of people doing the same drinking alone checking their phones, watching the bar's tv etc
You're not really meant to talk to people though in that case the goal is actually just to drink alone, not meet new people
If you want specifically to meet and talk to people in a bar of course you need to be somewhat social and find the right kind of bar for it, preferably in the evening
just a random example pic, i see at least 3 people drinking alone here
the first time i saw this topic of drinking come up i was a bit confused
I see and when in a new country it can be hard to find some places. Well I'd like to drink alone and meet new people but yes talking to people is an issue but also staying in hotel and drinking alone makes me feel I am not making the most of my holiday
Honestly you can it depends on many factors outside of just "drinking alone at the bar". What kind of bar, like a pub or a cafe? Is it small or big? What time of the day is it? Are there many people? Are there other people who are alone? Are you drunk? Is everyone else drunk too? etc
For example in a quiet terrace during the day it's easy to talk to your neighbor, not so much if you go alone in a busy pub full of groups at 9pm
>staying in hotel and drinking alone makes me feel I am not making the most of my holiday
You mean in your room? Yeah but drinking on a terrace in front of the beach is extremely relaxing imo
You can look up good spots before you go. I worked as a bartender before so I tend to favor more upscale wienertail bars over cheap dives. It's easier to stay solo in spots like this, the interior is typically nice, the drinks are good, the liquor selection is better, smaller and tend to be more intimate so easier to stay solo but also easy to socialize if you want to. It works well.
>have a pack of smokes
>see someone light a smoke
>ask to use their lighter
>cheers mate, are you from here?
>oh sweet how do you like liking here/there?
>what do you do for work? do you like it?
>I do [job]
>if you haven't said it by now,"I didn't catch your name, mine's Anon"
>nice meeting you New Friend, your next drink's on me [if you like them enough]
This is the only reason I am sad I dont smoke. seems so easy to approach people with that excuse
holy shit bro, are you autistic ? He's obviously posting a guideline. There are dozens of ways you can introduce yourself without being a complete tard. It all boils down to introducing yourself and not sounding moronic.
Everyone on this thread is saying shit based on different premises. OP is trying to have a drink on his lonesome in a bar. That is perfectly fine as long as you don't get drunk and become annoying.
If you're a foreigner, certain bars are filled with expats and exchange students. These people will welcome you with open arms if you speak their language, provided you're not a complete c**t. It's a good way to make contacts once you arrive in the country, since most people who expatriate/immigrate often go solo, and will have compassion for someone that has been in the same situation as them. Anon above mentioned opening by borrowing a cigarette, but there are other ways. Just use the common denominator method. Could be a nationality thing, could be an accent thing, an ethnic thing, if you're in like, Asia, just being non-asian can do. If you still are clueless, look it up or make a fricking thread.
If you're a local in your own city and you're going to a bar, then yes, I find this to be a tad awkward. If you have zero friends to hang out with, then maybe skip the drinking and focus on that first. This being said no one will judge you if you just have a cold one at the front ?
what shithole do you live in that you can smoke in bars
Japan
Just drink wine in your hotel room like did when staying in Japan. You can be naked and eat snacks you bought at 7-11. Comfy as frick.
>drinking alone
why the frick would you ever want to do that?
I went alone to a bar in Hiroshima and then I started talking with the bartender and soon enough I had a group to drink with.
Buy a 6 pack of beer and sit alone in your room if you want to 'drink alone'
>goes drinking alone
>shits on OP for wanting to do the same
The difference between OP and me is that when I start drinking alone, I don't end that way.
Keep going to the bar where gay 30 year old babies want to frown at you for coming alone and you will meet a cool sigma friend who doesn't give a shit about all that and go on wacky adventures. What's the big deal? Stop being a lil puss puss.
just buy alcohol from the store, get a little drunk and maybe that'll give you the confidence to go out to a pub.
don't
My hotel is out in Kabukicho so I’ve been there pretty frequently, but none of these places look like they won’t scam you. You guys know of any good spots to hang out here.
>kabukicho
you probably spent more than two grands going to japan, why didn't you do the most basic of research about tokyos neighborhoods
this is like going to the bronx and then wondering why everythings shit
>drinks alone and doesn't want to meet people
>people look at you strangely
More often than not, locals don't want to be bothered by tourists. Sure, a fellow foreigner would be probably be ok with talking with a stranger but most people want to go on with their evening without being annoyed. I don't even want to tell you that "sure, if you're charismatic enough you might have a chance" not because it's untrue, but because as a rule, few people manage to pull it off, and the kind that do are savvy enough to find ways to socialize that aren't just that. Hostels, activities, meetups, dates are just better places to meet strangers with whom you eventually hang out and go to said bar.
In a nutshell, foreign guy goes to drink alone in a bar, it's usually only a matter of time until the fricker gets either sloppy drunk and makes a scene or starts chatting people up, hence the apprehension.
Again, this might be different in certain places, such as expat bars in Asia.
Seriously though, i've noticed a serious lack of social intelligence in these travel boards that weren't present before. I find it apalling that guys in their mid-thirties such as those posting in this thread can't figure out the basics of human interaction when they lived a far less digitized young adult life, or start oversharing their age height and ethnicity so people can tell them whether they can still frick or not.
>most people don't want to be annoyed
the key difference is that not every random encounter is an annoyance. Hell, two nights ago I'm seeing a friend off as hes moving across state lines to work and we won't see him anymore. Our friend group hit a bar, we saw a girl on her own and immediately invited her to come chat with us until the bar shut down. Afterwards, we moved on to a second bar that shut down a bit later and chatted up a couple that was just there and willing to shoot the shit with us. Many people are very receptive of strangers when the approach is obviously kind, they all knew none of us had motive behind laughs and cheers so none had a smidge of hesitation against us. You can very clearly tell when you're not wanted when you're sober or tipsy. When you're a sloppy drunk mess then yeah, go be more reticent, but there is no real loss to trying when you can still tell what's what.
>the autism is skyrocketing here with mid-30s losers who can't handle basic human interaction
/misc/ and /LULZ/ have been leeching onto this board and ruining it. /misc/ can't stop complaining about non-first world being nonwhite and non-first world, /LULZ/ can't shut up about being virgin freaks who never leave their house and refused to socialize for 2 decades of their lives to avoid having an awkward moment.
just go on a fricking tourist bar crawl you pussy