>see youtubers going to hostels and just getting friends instantly
>SighSee tells me to go to hostels and I will just get friends instantly
>go actually to a hostel
>nobody cares about me
>try to approach people
>they all keep their distance and dont want me around
travelling was a mistake
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Which country did you go to?
Are you short anon?
I would rather not say.
I am mid.
I have little weight but I am not fat. Anyway nobody said that I need to be a Chad
It’s literally because you’re not attractive. I’m so tired of homosexuals ignoring the elephant in the room. Literally nothing you do or say matters if your physical appearance evokes pity and disgust from men and women alike.
It’s the same thing with a double amputee in a wheel chair coworker I have. I don’t want to be around him or interact with him because all I feel is this intense pity for how much his life sucks and it drowns out everything else. It’s literally uncomfortable, so it’s the same way with ugly people. Everyone can look at you for one second and they know your life just sucks ass and you get zero pussy and you’re probably depressed
I got a hair transplant and now I just look at bald men with pity because they’re so far bald that not even a hair transplant can save them. They’re doomed to be a bald homosexual for the rest of their life
You work with a double amputee?
LOL you must be that anon who calls baldies dysgenic. A whole lot of self-loathing and projection in your posts. OP is probably just socially awkward and needs to learn how to build rapport.
baldies literally are dysgenic
Lot of insecurity in this post.
Nope. The security is knowing that you need a full head of hair to go out in public with dignity and I took those steps because I have self respect.
Whenever I see a bald man, I have to fight the urge to cup my hands around my mouth and shout, “HEY LOOK AT THAT SICKLY CANCER PATIENT BALD homosexual! WHERE DID YOUR HAIR GO!”
I wonder if you realize that everybody can tell you have a hair transplant.
very pathetic mindset. have some self-respect
>I got a hair transplant
>baldgays are doomed to be a baldgay for the rest of their life
How moronic can you be?
My hostel experience has varied widely. One thing I have learned: if you are lonely and crave a real friend, disposable hostel friendships are NOT for you. Being a loner at a hostel and being frozen out by the other guests is a sucky experience, but it happens. Either stick around until a more friendly group comes through, find another loner to hang out with, or disengage completely and look forward to your next destination.
>travelling was a mistake
Stop with this pity-party bullshit. Your home life is no better than your traveling life, stop pretending otherwise. At least while traveling, you can always look forward to new opportunities in the future, while at home, it's only more of the same old, same old.
Anxiety can be an issue, but most often it is simply being dull and depressing that turns people off. Of course, being rejected makes you more depressed and even less likely to make friends. Start over again, or accept that you will explore the world alone and depressed. It happens.
this is either topshelf bait or pure autism, I can't tell
> I got a hair transplant
lmao
You are not fooling anyone with your fake ass hairline, pal. I clock you closeted baldies from a mile away lmao
However you are right. Take care of your appearance and you'll be instantly liked more. Only a tiny fraction of the population is truly unfixably ugly
This is one of the most incel things I've read on here recently.
You're a loser with zero self awareness.
problem: you're a dude
Sorry about your baldness
not everyone is cut out for solo travelling and there's absolutely no guarantees.
best to travel with a friend or two if you can't handle the loneliness that you will often experience. Some people solo travel precisely to be alone for a bit
a friend or two? how about three? maybe I should travel with three "friends". would that be alright? but which three friends should I choose? maybe I should just invite all of them huh?
You're probably fat, and you browse SighSee so also a weirdo
you need to man up and start lifitng
Why would you solo travel if you plan on talking to people?
??? I do this, if anything it makes it easier because theres no one holding you back and people already assume you're available.
Have you ever had the misfortune of being on the other side of the camera with one of these homosexuals? It's all staged and set up. I fricking HATE IT
>hey guys I am a vtuber I have X many followers and want to know if you guys would like to be on my channel talking about stuff!!!!!
>females instantly want attention so their bf's fold into it
>group mentality takes over as majority rule sweeps through
>can't just sit and drink after a day of exploring
>hear stories I just heard now cranked up to 1000% being nearly false
>everyone so happy just to be a YT 15 minute of fame
>everyone cheery to feel like a celeb after
Dunno what to say other than if you suck at socializing hostels will suck, but YT homosexuals who do those interview things aren't fun at all.
its anxiety. ive seen countless ugly mofo's who are the life of the party at hostels. but if you're a nervous quivering mess you've got no hope. people will avoid you.
Just find shit to do and someone might join
You're leaving out the fact that when there's a vlogger around, some people will flee, yes, but plenty of people will want to be on camera, even if they have no idea who you are.
If you project charisma that you are some hot shot influencer there's going to be some people hungry for fame and want to be a part of the next video. Also when I watch these vlogs, some of the bigger ones seem to find fans even in the most obscure places. I saw Kino Yves (french guy who rides a weird bike around the world) the other day meet a random fan at some random village in Kenya. So there's that aspect too.
It always shocks me just how easy it is to recognize someone. I'm not even a youtuber but I appeared in some guy's video and a friend of mine as well as the security guard at my old place of work said they saw me in that video. The views had like 400k so it's not like it was some viral video. I think that's insane. So I guess it's something not to underestimate.
If you have the time to be a travel vlogger, it doesn't seem that hard these days. I see absolutely mediocre, unlikeable c**ts getting 6 figure views just because they walked through some town in India. A lot of people especially in 3rd world countries love searching their town on youtube to see what's there and if they see a Westerner walking through it, it will go viral easily. And even more on Tiktok. Try learning a couple sentences in the local language and boom you get thousands of subscribers, as long as you can create some entertainment value. I would totally do it if I were able.
You have to have something to offer them. ITs easy for women cause they flash breasts. As a man its likability, humor, snack packs, ideas & leadership, etc.
It has to be something, nobody wants to make friends with a hole.
this.
people want to get something from other people. think about this way: comedians are mostly not THAT funny but still people chase that little bit dopamine they could get from a stand up and they drive miles to see that so called funny guy.
so even if you offer something little, people will want to be around you.
I am going home in two days.
I tried this --
1 - started to talk with a group, easy talk first where are they from what did they see, I am like "you guys want to go here, do this? do you want to chill in this bar together" and I get a gentle nah frick off
2 - start the small talk again, I ask if they have a program for today, they tell me they are headed to see xy, and I was like "wow that sounds cool, mind if I join you", and I get a simply frick off like "sorry our group is full'
Nevermind, I tried to have fun anyway but I wont go to a hostel again
>"you guys want to go here, do this?"
>"wow that sounds cool, mind if I join you"
This is really pushy right off the bat. They've known you for 15 seconds and they have to spend a day with you already? Absurd. Don't ask strangers to commit to anything. Just talk to them about interesting stuff, like the city or sights. Also if they're in the middle of something, they will still tell you to frick off after about 60 seconds because you interrupted them. Don't interrupt people. They need to look available and/or bored.
>this is really pushy
What are you, a Finn? It is perfectly normal to be "pushy" when you want to make new friends in hostels, in most of the world. What anons can't handle is being pushy and then being cold-shouldered by a gaggle of autistic Scandanavians. It makes them highly reluctant to try again.
At least engage in some small talk (where are you from, where are you going, all that bullshit) first
There are some weirdos who stay at hostels, they gotta make sure you aren’t one of them
Its cause you're desperate. Desperate people are uncomfortable to be around because they hide their true selves in a bid to try and please you by mirroring. You are allowed to be a person that isn't bending over for everyone you meet. It's not your fault you are like this, you probably have trauma, but I'm just explaining why it's happening
Not everyone has your story dude.
Thats because people want to be on camera anon.
Op, I've never been top a hostel before, but this is my plan:
1. Get AirBNB for a week or two first to get things set up in new country (Sim, bicycle, gym membership)
2. Relocate to nearby hostel/guest house, ideally with private room
3. Become 'the gym guy' and spend everyday getting swole and eating delicious food while also working on my language skills
4. Hopefully make tons of friends by being a chill non-douchebag, but if this fails I'll just use it as a place to sleep for a while and smash dates
It's staged homie
>watching vagrant holiday
>dude literally sleeps in the bushes, scavanges McDonalds trash cans and shaves in public toilets
>every episode he still finds some girls that invite him to sleep in their apartment for the night or join them at private parties
You either have it or you don't. For you and me OP it was over from the start.
>vagrant holiday
you seriously think he sleeps outside like a homeless person ?
Was the hostels full of Israelis and French by any chance? They generally aren’t keen on socializing with other nationalities, although there are certainly exceptions
Anyways sometimes there’s not really much of a vibe at some hostels, just go onto the next one and use it as an opportunity to chill for a night, finding people to hang out with isn’t usually an issue for me.
Check reviews on hostel world, it’s generally indicative of the vibe. It’ll even show you flags, so if it’s a bunch of French or Israelis find somewhere else. My preference is a place that has social atmosphere, maybe even a small bar, but not a full on party hostel
This is my experience too, and with those exact same nationalities too, although I've had better experiences one on one. Nords and Germans can seem standoffish, too but they are nice just autistic. Former soviet countries are crazy but also friendly and know how to have a good time. If you are a native English speaker though, the best by far are other Anglophone countries. Brits and Aussies are especially hilarious and give no fricks most of the time. Americans can be friendly too if you can handle their high maintenance and I say that as a fellow burger. Also make sure you aren't butting into tight-knit group, if they don't seem to want to talk to you, don't force it. If they are young (under 30) and there are girls in the group, it can also cause protective instincts to kick in for the guys. A solo traveler trying make himself a part of that group might be seen to have ulterior motives. My rule of thumb is never to ask to join another party, but just get to know them and if I'm invited so be it. If they ask what my plans are it's usually a good sign that they are open to it. I'm a solo traveler at heart though, and most of the time prefer my own company unless I have spent some time without speaking to another traveler.
>5’7 in america
>spergy and while I try to be outgoing and can be still relegated to bottom of social hierarchy
>decently attractive and had some success in college but have been sexless for 3 years despite trying
>25 years old, Norwood reaper hitting, nasolabial folds staring to show and agepill hitting
It’s fricking over man. I just want to experience some youth and being accepted in a social circle and getting with girls and whatnot but it seems like it will never happen. I was hoping I could cope with hostels and travelling but knowing myself I would probably be dissapointed and frick it up. Being a manlet doesn’t help and is probably just got mogged by tallgay Europeans. I guess I’ll just stick to SEA and then rope at 30. No intention of being a betabux provider and even if I wanted to i probably couldn’t anyway. Life of prostitutes and then dying of an accidental cause to offset the pain from family seems like the best move.
You will have a better time in Asia anon. They can't detect how spergy you are. Nothing to be ashamed about using a prostitute. Cheaper and less time consuming than a gf.
>rope at 30.
If you are worried about the signs of aging you can buy yourself some more time with proper skincare, good health, eventual hair transplant if you are self-conscious about that, though at your age you should be able to do fine on just finasteride or minoxidil.
I was having the time of my life even in my late thirties and I'm not much taller than you. No reason you can't enjoy life a bit.
I feel this anon. I always had a natural fascination to meet interesting people across social classes and the globe and create as many beautiful memories as possible, but I've realized people just can't see that in me cause I'm 5'6. Had a pretty big circle in high school, but when we graduated and everyone kept growing but me people started acting drastically differently around me. I do great on apps for example, and then as soon as I message that I'm 5'6, or we even get to a meet, as soon as they see my height they slink away (even been yelled at for it a few times). I've even accepted my role as the person who initially brings different sides of the room together and breaks the ice between them, like in a hostel situation, and then they all go off without me.
But yeah all I ever wanted was to go with the flow and bounce back and forth and create a connection with others, but I don't even possess the entry key because people don't see me as a peer.
Sounds like you are fine talking to people but need to work on connecting one on one. Instead of worrying about everyone why not just mingle until you find someone you vibe with and become friends with them? Nobody likes a social bawd.
You deserve it for staying at a hostel like a poorgay normie. Why would you want to hang out with travel prostitutes and disgusting backpackers instead of getting a hotel/Airbnb doing your own thing
I just want to meet some new people, it's getting hard at 30...
Life has challenges but NDErs say we are here to overcome them.
NDEs are actually solid proof of life after death, because anyone can have them if they come close to and survive death. And they are so extremely real to those who have them: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U00ibBGZp7o
As this NDEr described their NDE:
>"Now, what heaven looks like? 'OMG' doesn't even describe how beautiful this place is. Heaven is, there are no words. I mean, I could sit here and just not say anything and just cry, and that would be what heaven looks like. There are mountains of beauty, there are things in this realm, you can't even describe how beautiful this place is. There are colors you can't even imagine, there are sounds you can't even create. There are beauties upon this world that you think are beautiful here. Amplify it over there times a billion. There are, it's incredibly beautiful, there's no words to describe how beautiful this place is, it's incredibly gorgeous."
And importantly, even dogmatic skeptics have this reaction, because the NDE convinces everyone:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mysteries-consciousness/202204/does-afterlife-obviously-exist
So anyone would be convinced if they had an NDE, we already know this, no one's skepticism is unique.
I don't know you and I don't want to know you. Mind your own business, I'll mind mine, and kindly frick off.
get a life and become a real traveler
Are hostels really the only way for cheap lodging? Do I have to bunk like a college freshman again?
Theres couch surfing.
you can get a private room but its more expensive
Can still be fairly cheap though, depending on various factors
Private room at a hostel is usually more expensive than a private room at a hotel, due to the extra amenities offered by the hostel.
If you can't afford your own room, you can't afford to travel. Period.
Ive found hostels have gotten to be as expensive as hotels in the last 5 years
>due to the extra amenities offered by the hostel
Like what? Venerial diseases and athletes foot?
pussy on tap
>Private room at a hostel is usually more expensive than a private room at a hotel
Varies by case, but not really in my experience
>in a dorm, chatting with my bunkmate
>we made plans to see some sights together after brekky
>go out, have a good time
>get back that afternoon to relax and shower before going out in the evening
>an older, weird balding dorm mate saw us come in
>I can feel his eyes seeking mine
>he greets us, asks what we are planning this evening
>I say not too sure yet, my friend feels the vibe and says something similar, even tho we had plans
>he says hes going to go out
>alright, cool
>know he was expecting an invite or vice versa, instead we let silence hang
>awkward as frick
>take a nap, go out later that evening
>look back and kek, this couldve been one of you