I was supposed to go to a trip around several cities in europe with my crush for a week, but it didn't work out with her. she still wanna come with me but she has a issue with her papers so she won't be able to come.
I never ever solo traveled before. I'm in a pretty deep depression and I don't like to go somewhere alone. I been in these cities except one of them, so there isn't nothing new for me. Should I just go, or shouldn't I? I know I would definitely bored to frick out because
-I been in these cities
-I don't like to travel alone
-I like meeting with new people but i don't want to give my time to meet with people that i won't ever see again
But is there a good reason to just do it?
no
I'm an autist who doesn't really like people and I can't imagine why would anyone travel alone
like you wanna feel even more lonely then usual or what
find anyone willing
I'm a fricking loner irl so it makes no difference for me. Travelling solo actually have more social interactions with strangers in a day than I do in a year. I can't imagine going with anyone would be fun or too much hassle unless you're with your gf/wife or something
The best solo travel ever is the Camino de Santiago, usually is kinda a spiritual thing, there
i met some girls who wanted to walk and a man who was doing that because lost his friends in a car accident and other stuff
I heard about this. It's some kind of pilgrimage right?
It's completly a pilgrimage actually!
Some ppl found Jesus, love or both in the way
Actual good advice. Having a solo trip to be just a random tourist, see the sights, hang out in bars etc. will make you have an awful time. Tourism for the sake of tourism is an intrinsically social activity, you do that to create shared memories with other people.
If you're going to travel solo, do it for a specific purpose. It may be spiritual (like the Camino de Santiago, or hell any other form of pilgrimage to the sacred site/s of your preferred religion), or something more down to earth, like attending a concert you're really interested in or doing a specific activity that can only be done in a specific place (my last solo trip was to Oslo, I went there because I'm really into black metal and wanted to see some of the places connected to its history, and I also did some fun unrelated stuff on the side).
Having a specific goal or thing you're aiming towards is the only way to make solo travel bearable. Otherwise you're honestly better off just staying home with your crush, or starting to ask semi-random people that seem nice (work colleagues, distant relatives around your age, casual acquaintances etc.) if they want to come with you. It's a great way to strengthen friendships, and asking them if they want to travel with you kind of acts as an automatic filter against buttholes, since boring/egoistical people are very unlikely to say yes to going on a trip with someone whom they barely known, while the adventurous and outgoing type might come along
What's the best time of year to do this such that it woundn't be at it's busiest, but it also wouldn't be desperately hot?
This sounds interesting. Is cooming still viable given the religious connotation?
Yeah, it's comfy. Also visit some brothels and FKK:s to get rid of that cuckold oneitis mindset.
>Is the correct solution to find people to travel with, or find something unique/interesting that could make the trip worthwhile?
Yes, that is in fact precisely the point I tried to make in my previous post, and what I sorta gathered in my experience as a traveler (both for tourism and other reasons) as well as by talking with other travelers.
>Do you have any ideas/experiences of "specific goals or things to aim for" as a solo traveler (or anyone else in this thread for that matter)?
That honestly depends on you anon. Are you a religious or spiritual person, even passingly? If you are, then visiting the sacred site(s) of your preferred religion(s) might be an actually meaningful experience to you. Pilgrimage was one of the main reasons why people in ye olden days did any type of major travel (other than commerce and shit) and there's a reason for that: it can be a legitimately soul-changing thing to do.
Alternatively, do you have any specific niche, passionate interests in something like art/architecture/music/food which is prominently associated with a specific area of the world? Then go there for that reason. Seeing the Helvete music shop, the various stavkirker burnt down by Varg & co., and the forests featured on the cover art of many of my favourite albums was the main factor motivating my solo trip to Norway because I'm autistic about black metal, I got to do all those things and I'm super happy about it. If I tried to explain that to another person it might sound silly or stupid to them that I went to Norway just to see stuff associated with a bunch of LARPing nerds in the 90s, but that's the point: I don't need to explain it to anyone, it's something I did because I wanted to.
If you're into esoteric cuisine, go somewhere there's a specific culinary tradition which you can only sample there. If you're into a specific artist or art movement, go to see the main museum related to that. I'm sure you get the point
Best of luck anon
>pilgrimage
I think I know what my next trip is going to be. Thanks anon.
>I'm in a pretty deep depression and I don't like to go somewhere alone.
>But is there a good reason to just do it?
no, bad mindset. You'll end up hiding in your hotel room.
>Is the correct solution to find people to travel with, or find something unique/interesting that could make the trip worthwhile?
yes, travel partners make some boring sight seeing fun, and or having a goal to archive gives you motivation to do it alone. I went to greece to find a sea turtle, took me 4 days and kept swimming around in the ocean until I found one. No one cares but me and it was great. Ofc your goal can be anything, like fugg girl and whatnot.
You have to find by yourself what you're into.
Apparently you have money and free time but can't imagine anything you'd enjoy in the whole world ?
That's like asking us "I'm bored of the top 10 pop songs, what's some music I could listen ?".
A few things that I love and will make my trip enjoyable, it's normie shit
>ride on motorbike's back in a busy city
>go into villages where no tourist ever comes and come back hitchhiking
>underground metal/punk/grind concerts even if usually the bands suck
>sleep in mountain hostels and reach a top after a 4-5 hours walk
>chill a whole week doing nothing in a very small city, just cook, exercise, read a good book, go for groceries, eat at the same restaurant every evening
>swim in a small lake
>have a hotel room in the 20+ floor in a metropolis
>make eye contact and exchange smiles with brown girls while gf isn't looking
>frick a hooker and eat a good burger just after
OP here
I decided not to go but just before the flight day I remembered that I have few friends in these cities. So I thought frick why I'm not writing to them. Thank god they wanna meet up.
So long story short, I decided to go and at least I won't be %100 alone during my trip.
So far I'm feeling fricking terrible because I got left to my own shitty thoughts.
I'll let you guys know about my overall experience.
OP here v2
I'm in my second city and i'll leave tonight.
First city was pretty boring considering i've been there before and did the all the shit before so i also tried to visit outer sides of the city. I meet with my friend for one day, that day was ok.
Second one was a new spot for me. I joined to a free walking tour and meet with some people. I hangout with the one of the guy from that group during that day. Guy was boring but better than nothing. Next day i was all alone but there was lots of stuff to do because it was saturday so i kinda had fun buy buying some shit. And visiting around interesting stores.
Overall my thoughts:
going to a city you've been before as solo will be boring unless you'll gonna spend your all time with actual something. New cities are OK. But going with a friend will be way more better. Try to join to the walking tours if the group is big enough you'll definetly find someone to hangout.
nice give us an update op
OP here V3
In third city, i was going to meet with my friend but he couldn't come due to strikes in france. So I decided to join to walking tours again but the group was extremely small and i was the only solo traveler. Tour itself was good though.
In the next days i decided to visit the museums that i didn't visit before. It's a pretty big city (paris) so i found lots of museum to hang out, and cool random places to take picture of.
I didn't do any partying nor try to hit on rando-girls, i'm not a fan of it.
Conclusion, I will never solo travel again even if I have friends in these cities. For me, purpose of the travel is having good memories with friends/loved ones, so this thing is not for me. If you like to travel because you actually want to see these places and this is all your purpose, idk, be my guest.
>Conclusion, I will never solo travel again even if I have friends in these cities. For me, purpose of the travel is having good memories with friends/loved ones, so this thing is not for me. If you like to travel because you actually want to see these places and this is all your purpose, idk, be my guest.
This is why I have not traveled solo yet. I fear that is going to be a disappointment, and waste of resources. On the other hand maybe it is worth trying once?
If you can't find comrades to travel with, i advise you to plan everything beforehand with reasonable prices and invite them like that.
Everything planned + reasonable price will be tempting for them.
You shouldnt travel to France or other degenerate first world countrys go to the third world the lack of civilization Will make it More fun and you Will see other tourists as well
i've gone on several trips by myself and never had a problem. maybe yall are fricked in the head compared to me
same. i guess SighSee doesn't like traveling
Half the board is demoralisation posts by third worlders who can't afford a 4 hour bus ticket in their own country.
OP will have fun and enjoy the frick out of their holiday, I guarantee it. Everything changes the moment you touch down.
Solo travelling is fine, even for anti-social autists.You eventually meet people to talk shit with, be it locals or other travellers.
do something fun that you dont normally do in your town. like get a happy ending at a massage parlor. prostitues. get in ubers and chat with the drivers. go to a strip club. go to a really nice restaurant and be cool with the waiters. walk in an area with lots of buisnesse and shop. i love to travel alone. i do it about once a month. i love to people watch. im also very attractive so i feel that i am enough. im very fit muscular so no one messes with me. if i really hate myself i will go to a bar and get drunk.
i do everything alone and never thought much about it, i go to festivcals alone, camoing alone, nightclubs alone, im 33 now and i only get sad about being alone when im heartbroken.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/michaelgoldstein/2022/12/08/why-do-women-like-to-travel-more-than-men/
Are men afraid of solo travel?
>Be woman
>Go to any place
>Half of the place want to frick you
It's not so hard. Women gets the attention wherever they go. They don't need friends because it's easy to make along the way rather with other solo-female travelers or people who wants to frick them.
its because they feel welcome.