TLDR: Where go?
I'm a 21 y/o bong and I want to meet new people and see different lands. I went so Sicily this year with my family and loved it, but I want to do some solo stuff.
Basically, I am a loner but not completely autistic. I'm good looking and have reasonable social skills but I'm not too outgoing. My primary goal would be to meet cool people. The idea is that being in a place where no one knows my name would enable me to be more outgoing.
Any ideas? Obviously I would be staying in a hostel somewhere, but where?
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If you don't mind being surrounded by other bongs you can check out popular party tourism destinations such as Amsterdam, Krakow or the usual suspects in Spain.
You get your "social circle" for long nights but you can also detach and see things during the day if you feel like it.
Okay, sounds like an idea. Thanks anon.
What are the usual suspects in Spain? Honest question, it's the first time I'm interested in traveling and I don't know where people go there.
You can either head to the beach&party destinations like Ibiza, Shagaluf, Benidorm, etc. or you can follow the mainstream tourism to Barcelona, Valencia and other cities.
> Basically, I am a loner but not completely autistic. I'm good looking and have reasonable social skills but I'm not too outgoing
Basically me. I hate small talk and am aware of how superficial most people are, but if anything that makes it easier to communicate with them and “let go” and just have fun because you realize how little it matters. I enjoy my own company but can easily start bullshitting with people, know how to tell a good story to get a group of people engaged and laughing, and generally realize that even though at heart I’m no normie that doesn’t mean I’m universally “better” than them. Advantages I have are disadvantages they have and vice versa. A good amount of those “normies” this site likes to make fun of are more disciplined, better looking, and generally more successful and stable than you so humble yourself and learn something from them, even if it’s just how to get on their level, no matter how shallow, and socialize and have fun. Enjoy yourself and grow bro.
>t. 29 year old anon who didn’t realize this until his mid 20s
You can meet cool people anywhere anon. Just find a person that speaks your language and talk to them. Just have confidence and go to a bar or something.
how would you start a conversation say at a bar? You're both standing at the bar waiting to be served; what do you say?
Hey man whats up? You like drinking (the alcohol the guy ordered)?
"Do you know any other cool spots in town"?
"Women shouldnt be able to vote amirite?"
"$5 says i can get that girls number over there"
thanks for these suggestions but these american cliches aren't gonna get me anywhere with other antisocial brits
a funny observation about someone around you tends to work. or show them your balls
I'd suggest approaching people who are also tourists, so find bars with young people travelling, these are common in backpacker areas. Just say hello and ask if there travelling, where are they from - its the easiest ice breaker and you can both talk about your trip from there, often you will discuss your home countries, other travel dreams etc. Eventually it just turns to a normal conversation.
Actually top tier. Thanks
I hope it works out well for you. My advice is to think about what countries and cultures you'd like to visit and learn more about, there are always tourists wherever you go so meeting people and travelling goes hand in glove. I dunno about you, but once I started a 9 to 5 and sold my soul to a career, planning my travels is what keeps me going.
Also, another way to meet people outside bars is to go on little guided day trips. I've met heaps of people on buses, boats, in minivans, etc while being shown some cool local site just outside of the city I'm staying in. Use TripAdvisor to find these opportunities, just check the reviews to ensure its value for money.
More solid advice. Thank you anon.
I don't really mind my job, I'm just lonely and would like to travel. Two birds one stone hopefully
unironically any social hostel in central europe
this is what I wanted to hear. Do you have any experiences with hostels like these? (open question)
This is how you end up getting HOSTEL'd
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hostel_(2005_film)
what would you suggest as an alternative, to avoid this horrendous outcome
Kuala Lumpur. Why is KL not mentioned here more? KL is cheap, safe, a decent amount to do, easy transportation, awesome safe street food markets, hot bawds (they’re most likely Muslim which is hot imo) everywhere on Tinder begging to try a foreigner. Nice nightlife tbh and hot girls. It’s dirt cheap too, just be careful walking as KL is not very walkable friendly and they drive like crazy people sometimes
Also they all speak English especially all the younger gen (20s) and you can get a hotel/airbnb with an infinity pool for like 30/40$ a night. Just don’t wear shorts and drink a lot of water it’s very hot there.
Come to Nosara, Costa Rica. I'll be there from Jan 4th to Jan 7th. We can meet up and surf or go clubbing
Sorry anon, I have work. And I'm not too comfortable meeting up with strangers on this site of all places anyway haha
>Even anonymous strangers reject me
Holy shit it's truly over for me... I just wanted some friends..
It completely depends on you. If you just want to 'meet' people, Thailand is cheap and full of party islands for you to meet other young people.
I've always wanted to visit SEA, but the flight prices from the uk are pretty horrendous in comparison to western europe. For france, I could just get on a bus and take the eurotunnel for £40-70.
Question: Do you have any tips for getting cheap flights? Somehow I doubt skyscanner is optimal
Fair enough - set up alerts using Google Flights - you would want to look pretty far in advance, like 6 months to a year. You also want to read up on when the peak tourist season is. On the one hand, more people means more opportunities to meet people, but it also drives up prices. Thailand's beach region involves a thin peninsula with the monsoon period being different for either side, so depending where you want to go in Thailand the peak season will vary.
This is true to an extent, I would say Bali is the only applicable place in Indonesia for what you describe and that is like too expensive to fly to for a Brit.
I personally enjoyed Vietnam more than Thailand, but I was proposing something very entry level with boundless options. If you really want to pinch pennies, personally I would recommend Cambodia. There is a night life scene for backpackers and some reasonable beaches.
I would not recommend this. Maybe like twenty years ago or something. Vietnam or Indonesia are far more reasonably priced and there are all the same debauched lunacy you can do in Thailand. Just more low key.
I only solo travel. I put myself in situations where I will meet like minded people. I always stay in my own rooms, no hostels, no dorm, none of that. But I go to places that people like me will go, local food favorites, slightly shady bars, local events like a farmers market or team game. I like that stuff and will usually end up talking to people outside of tourist areas, night clubs, etc.
I also, "treasure hunt" basically I'm traveling here to do this thing that is slightly difficult to achieve but not impossible. It's amazing how many people will get on board to try to help me. It might be summiting a mountain, meeting a local celebrity, finding a particular food or something similar.