>tfw ai fell for the traveling alone is good meme
Frick you all. I am more depressed than ever. At home I was at least alone. Here I see nothing more just cute girls with their boyfriends, happy families and friends having fun. This is my first day but I already want to go home. Going to SighSee was a mistake
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Last time I traveled alone was 2017, went to Japan and wandered around for a month. I saw a lot of cool things but I was alone 99% of the time and the loneliness was suffocating, it can't be understated how much it hurts to feel like a ghost. The best thing I did was join a hiking meetup one day and go for a hike with a group of people, mixed foreigners and Japanese, and it was like a million pounds being lifted off me getting to talk and have fun with them. I resolved never to travel alone again unless it's in a social context, i.e. I know that what I will be doing there is with a group of people.
OP here. I know that feeling. I went for a drink in a bar. I was the only one alone. Everyone was in a group laughing, having fun. If I would suddenly die nobody would care. At least I thought historical stuff will make me happy. No it didn't. Cuties with their boyfriends were making selfies, everybody was so fricking happy.
>didn’t frick the prostitutes
>didn’t go to the soaplands
>didn’t go to the bars or language cafes
>didn’t go to cafe where you just cuddle with the girls
Japan is like the best place to get a human touch, you just fricked up because you let your judeo-abrahamic values get in your way.
>language cafes
How are those for making friends or at least meeting people to hang out with for some time?
Gonna be in tokyo for some months and meeting people is kinda difficult
It's because you're a b***h
Just get prostitutes while you're traveling and you'll be fine
Why is it worse to be spending your days alone while you are traveling, than it is to be living alone at home? Perhaps you set your expectations too high. My travel expectations are simple: good sleep, good food, and a solid shit. If you are feeling depressed because nobody gives two hoots about you, guzzle beer and stop caring. However, the kind of people you meet at bars at 1 AM may make you glad to be alone and not to have such people in your life.
Depression and a stiff prick rarely occur together. In fact, it's really tough to be depressed when you are feeling horny.
Literally all of this.
>depression and a stiff prick rarely occur together
Especially this
Here’s a ying. Next good post gets a yong
>Depression and a stiff prick rarely occur together. In fact, it's really tough to be depressed when you are feeling horny.
Speak for yourself. Depression makes me horny because I want that dopamine fix to feel a little better. I’ve jerked it while crying many times
You're supposed to make friends in hostels moron
No bro, thats where you sleep, go to bar to make friends. I could not give a single frick when I want to sleep about if you feel lonely or not. Ask someone to mcdonalds, then have your dopamine / ego lift / daily praise for existing.
Where are you? I’m lonely too so I knew to go to the Philippines where I easily can get a girlfriend in a day using a dating app.
It's your first day, relax and take hold of your wiener and commit to your fricking journey, pussy.
haha got another one
You need to learn to ve comfortable on your own. Being alone isn't the same as being lonely. You can be lonely around others.
Stay in hostels and talk to people in the common area.
Other solo travellers are typically qt least polite if not outright friendly.
This happens to me everytime I travel, I even call myself the Ghost, the reality is I power through it (often with the help of SighSee). It sure is lonely at night though wandering around waiting for something or anything to happen and then just going back to the hotel and going to bed alone as usual.
It's the price we pay for being ugly unlovable outcasts and it only gets worse as you age so just go ahead and keep doing stuff.
im a decent looking white brad but still become a ghost probably due to my autism being detected through body language or something.
Hostels with a bar that is also popular with locals is probably the best. You can cold approach most people and they are happy to include you as fellow travellers.
That being said, recently I went to Greece and that place is actually a nightmare for LeGhosts. Theres a good quality greece thread up explaining how Greeks will literally not be caught dead alone and are ALWAYS out in tight groups of friends.
Worse more, you're overtly alone and unlike in other countries, where you'd get friendly banter from the bartender or some fellas across the bar inviting you for a shot if you're an obvious foreigner (because they'd want to leave a good impression of their country), you can almost sense the derision in them if they've even perceived LeGhost, for this clanless no-hive...
>cute girls with their boyfriends, happy families and friends having fun
Just wait a few more years until you're 30+ like me and given up all hope on a nice life and then you can travel without giving a frick
>frick you all
You should’ve been fricking the qt hookers and then your post would’ve been the complete opposite.
I’m not even traveling right now and hookers are the reason I get up and work 60 hours a week and live like I’m poor until the next trip
Stop whining, you homosexual. Where the frick are you? Do a pub crawl or meet some anon from this board.
>tfw ai fell for the traveling alone is good meme
>ai
Botposts aren't even pretending anymore, huh?
I am in fricking Madrid homosexual
Let's see how long you last once you make it to burgerland, Mr. AI.
Madrid is great tho
Prostitution is legal there
My best time spent travelling alone was finding other people in similar locations. My preferred airbnbs are multiple rooms with shared living space, if I'm using a campground, try a free campground relatively close to a major attraction. This is where you meet people. Travelling alone is great, but you need to make room for other people where and when you can find them. My last day in iceland I got absolutely trashed with this random Brazilian dude i met in a hostel that very same night and had a bunch of cool conversations about both of our countries. Travelling alone is not an excuse to be a sperg, and meeting foreigners is way easier than meeting people in your own country ive found.
>had a bunch of cool conversations about both of our countries.
I don’t mean to detract from this experience because that does sound cool, but I wouldn’t be able to enjoy that experience unless I had already had sex that day. Does that make sense? Every social endeavor feels like it was a waste of time unless it results in sex or, having coomed already, I can enjoy a social interaction with another guy in an unagitated state
Sounds like you're a sex addict my friend, restrict your travels to Thailand or Vietnam and you'll be fine.
For what purpose do you travel? Stare at men and women having a good time like a cuck?
Have you tried going somewhere to do something that you want to do or see something you've always wanted to see?
You're supposed to get out of your comfort zone and actually try to meet new people instead of being an awkward sperg eating his curry alone while staring at couples in a perverted way
If you're in a bar and there's people your age why don't you try to strike a conversation ? Anything ? Worst case they don't understand jackshit and you move on, best case you made new friends
Why don't you go to touristic areas and meet other tourists in the same situation as you ? Ya'll complaining about being lonely when there's hundreds of people just like you in the fricking city just begging to strike a convo with someone lol.
Why travel to third world shitholes where you're 100% certain it'll be awkward being the only white guy and you got zero experience with that region to begin with ? Go to places that are easier to navigate, Japan is one of them. Don't listen to morons telling you to go to the Philippines or Thailand to socialize. I'd try milder destination first like Japan, Singapore or europe to get the hang of "socializing".
If looks are an issue just update your style, unless you look like Shrek there's absolute zero excuse calling yourself "ugly and unlovable" when you see 4/10 beta homosexuals dating 7-8/10s on a daily basis. Fix your fricking fashion, hair, neckbeard, and you'll have already done 80% of the work to look somewhat attracting.
Many introverted people have limited social energy. Being blown off a couple times at the hostel, or having new local "friends" try to take advantage of you, can make one feel extremely withdrawn and misanthropic, unable to manifest the good vibes needed to be outgoing and charm strangers.
>my experience in Colombia, a very social and upbeat country
I went alone to a club last night
There were a bunch of sexy white b***hes that I had no chance with and model-tier couples but I still had fun getting wasted and dancing alone
The music was really good
I went to a club for the first time last year. I was alone too. I was pretty drunk when I went in, first thing I did was buy a drink. I looked at what people were doing, saw people dancing near the DJ, so I went over and tried to dance. I talked to an african guy and some guy from nepal and bought the latter a drink. Overall, it wasn't fun, but I was soaking it up since it was my first time and stayed all night until it closed in the morning. I wouldn't go to a club again. I think people go to clubs because it's what they think they're supposed to do when they're young, not because they enjoy them.
Also, one thing that really pissed me off at the time was how I saw a guy hand a girl some cocaine without saying a word. They didn't look like they knew each other. He just held his fist out, and she snorted from it. I don't know why, but the way he nonchalantly just went back to dancing annoyed me for some reason. Thoughts went through my head like, "He's only offering it to her for free because she's a girl" and "I'm a nobody compared to that guy." But then I just kind of realised, he's a loser. In his mid-late 30s, maybe older, hanging out in a club giving out cocaine to girls for free. Clubs are for dregs.
>didn't ask him for some coke
ngmi baka
From my limited exp travelling alone (it was mostly negative)
1) Don't ever do tours, the outcast factor will be amplified tenfold
2) Don't go to restaurants, try to eat at normal/humble places or cook where you're staying (best)
3) Hike high difficulty trails, the ones I went to at least had little to no people on them and the experience takes you out of your head in the moment, plus you see cool stuff
4) Massages are good, normal or perverted
5) Casinos are good for killing time, and it's the norm to go there alone
Imo the advice about striking up convos is generally bunk unless it's already a place where it's implied that it's a mingling ground (hostels, bars sometimes, etc.) and even that is a gamble on whether or not you find someone receptive enough. Outside of those specific designated areas you're kinda SoL because everyone travels with someone else and its awkward coming up to them trying to jump into their circle uninvited
a better advice is stop giving a shit. I hate streamers, but watch a few IRL streamers see how they interact. They don't care, they just talk.
Streamers are effectively travelling with thousands of people, just because its over the internet doesn't mean it's fake. Streamers wouldn't be doing what they are doing if they didn't feel like they had the very real support and presence of those watching them
>Streamers are effectively travelling with thousands of people, just because its over the internet doesn't mean it's fake. Streamers wouldn't be doing what they are doing if they didn't feel like they had the very real support and presence of those watching them
There's IRL streamers that go around being outgoing and talking to people with only 1-2 viewers getting no donations. Having "support" or "presence" of those watching them has nothing to do with anything.
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Most people afraid of being outgoing or talking are afraid that the predefined outcome in their head doesn't turn out. Small talk helps if it is genuine, but forcing it is cringe. As an analogue for IRL streamers, instead of doing stuff for content, do it for experiences. Also, being buzzed helps to loosen inhibitions, or go frick an escort for that little confidence boost if you can.
Also most people that watch IRL streamers watch if the streamer gets into deep shit or drama; you're essentially piggy backing people egging you on from the safety of your home.
Best bet is drinking at hostels and then suggesting you all go out somewhere. That’s the only thing that’s ever worked to me and I am a terrible misanthrope.
>don’t go to restaurants
Say it louder. There’s so many gays in these threads that think you can just AMBLE into a restaurant completely alone and not feel your soul collapsing. Restaurants are NOT for solo people unless you can get a bar stool at the patio seating overlooking the street.
One of the greatest horrors ive ever experienced was being drunk and wanting a steak so I humbled into a restaurant late Saturday and only after I had ordered did I realize I would have to. BURY my face in my phone to avoid meeting the stares of bewildered tables full of people ALL AROUND ME. And of course it’s collectivist asia so I was judged more ferociously than I would have been anywhere else
Being alone at a hotel is the same as being a lone at your house. Usually worse actually as you have more shit to do in your house and is used to it.
Travelling alone is doable and good if you can handle being alone where you live. Do you go alone to museums where you live? Do you take public transportation and roam the streets alone? Do you go to the movies/watch some play alone? Do you eat/drink alone?
If you do, you'll be fine and enjoy your trip. If you do not, then you'll have a hard time unless you're extraverted and easygoing so you make "friends" during your trip and find people to go out with.
When I was 18-20 I've been to nightclubs alone in the city where I live. I found them to be really easy places to go alone. Much more than most bars. Did the same overseas (don't do it anymore as I'm too old for this shit) and had at least a decent time. Sometimes it was really good.
>don't go to restaurants
Oh, I do not think it is that simple. I've had worse time dining in a pub than in a fine dining restaurant (both alone). Also it really depends on what kind of restaurant you are eating, in which country, at what time....
Having dinner at a restaurant in Brazil all by yourself, unless you're in a hotel, will be seen as weird and people will stare a bit. You could do the same in a parisian café and no one would care. In Tokyo they have semiprivate tables that you can have a meal alone with no problems. You'll be just another guy doing that. In big cities, in general, having lunch alone at a restaurant is quite usual as people just leave the office for 1 hour and sometimes can't find a colleague to share a meal...
But yes, if you go to a restaurant to have dinner you'll see most tables have couples and others have groups of friends or families. Actually even fast food chains are usually filled with groups. Most people in most places hardly have a meal alone unless it is lunch break. People going to eat alone usually just order delivery.
I do this all the time thoughever. Maybe it's also because I'm a much older man, but nobody seems to even expect me to be with a gang of friends or a woman. I'm that guy, part of the scenery. Which is okay.
Oh the only thing I would add, though, is that restaurants understandably do dislike you taking up a whole table when it's busy, so just try to avoid that, instead go in a little earlier than most customers. This comes more naturally the older you get lol. And when you do, then the owner loves to see you come in, rather than getting upset.
You must've not been very drunk if you were so mortified by people looking curiously at you. Being ignored is depressing for me; I enjoy being an object of strangers' curiosity (especially when said strangers are females aged 14-24).
How do you talk/approach to strangers without being seen as a freak?
Be attractive
It's not so much being good-looking as having charm. Smiling when you meet someone, shaking hands and swapping names, knowing how to carry a conversation, reacting to show that you are listening, not talking about yourself unless asked, asking if they know any cool places or events - this leads to hanging out together. Latinos are pretty easy to approach and talk to, unless they are tired and busy...then they are curt. That being said, even if they know English, they usually get tired of speaking it after a bit, and your conversation may be cut off if an opportunity to speak Spanish with a third party arises.
>Say it louder. There’s so many gays in these threads that think you can just AMBLE into a restaurant completely alone and not feel your soul collapsing. Restaurants are NOT for solo people unless you can get a bar stool at the patio seating overlooking the street.
>One of the greatest horrors ive ever experienced was being drunk and wanting a steak so I humbled into a restaurant late Saturday and only after I had ordered did I realize I would have to. BURY my face in my phone to avoid meeting the stares of bewildered tables full of people ALL AROUND ME. And of course it’s collectivist asia so I was judged more ferociously than I would have been anywhere else
Nobody is looking at you. Nobody is thinking about you. They may glance at you but you are not significant enough to occupy people's thoughts. They are not spending energy thinking "wow, someone is eating alone in a restaurant".
I've been living abroad over 20 years now. The only place I feel self-conscious alone is in a cinema.
ok the cinema one is fricking moronic, going alone to the cinema of all places should be socially acceptable, but it's not. You're sitting a dark room for a hour or so to watch a flick.
>The only place I feel self-conscious alone is in a cinema.
>going alone to the cinema of all places should be socially acceptable, but it's not
I used to go to the cinema by myself for years, I'd go at weird times during the week when it's mostly empty so I'd have the best seats and not be bumping elbows. Nobody gives a shit, never even noticed anyone give me looks.
Even the random normie guy/girl roommates I used to have seemed impressed when they saw me heading out and asked where I was going, saying they wished they could do that. Maybe they were just saying that because it was peculiar but even then so what? What random people think has 0 impact on your life.
As a solo traveler i agree with most of this, i'll add:
-Don't go to the same place twice, so you won't meet the same groups/couples awkawrdly
-never sleep more the 2 or 3 nights at the same hostels or small hotels if you want to avoid being "the lonely guy room 34". Business hotels and rbnb are fine.
-timing is key. Don't plan more time than you need, ie Florence is 3 days max, after that you'll just wander around meeting the same people over and over
-avoid touristy shit and don't look like a tourist
-don't expect anything from anyone, enjoy yourself
How small are the places you go, where you meet the same people over and over again? (staff excepted)
Hotel keepers often seem weirded out by how much time I spend in my room while traveling, but they are mainly concerned that I am doing drugs or making a mess in my room.
Stop over-thinking everything. Jesus Christ, everyone is autistic on SighSee, I'm just realizing it now. This place should be studied by psychologists.
You can go alone in city restaurants that are not gourmet.
Also, it's easier for the lunch than for dinner, go after the big rush so you avoid most people and the owner will assume it's a plan B for you (or just pretend it is without saying that their restaurant is shit, say it's a last minute decision and that the restaurant looks nice from the outside, then start a convo about their restaurant, ask them what's the dish people usually order and so on). If there are other customers, they will see you speak to the waiter like a non-autist and it will comfort their normie expectations.
It sounds like a whole scenario but it's literally a 1 mn convo. If it's Japan, yeah just skip all this.
the restaurant hack is finding a brasserie/cafe type seating where the chairs face the street, then sitting solo doesnt feel weird at all and you don't have to worry about where to look or be glued to your phone pretend reading text messages (you have 0). Just watch life unfold before you with a slight disinterested expression. like a fly on the wall.
This is good advice. Restaurants alone are just sad, while an outdoor cafe is literally made for lonely people
People watching is cool for a few days, but it can get depressing when hardly a single pretty girl gives you a first glance, let alone a second one. Also, it is rude to be alone and occupy a table for hours after you finished eating.
>but it can get depressing when hardly a single pretty girl gives you a first glance, let alone a second one
you're too invested in the fantasy of meeting someone abroad; so much so it's on your mind 24/7 and get depressed when those expectations are not met. It's one thing I noticed about depressed people while traveling is that.
what mindset do you have to consider someone you met and hung out a few times constitute as friends. "Just write it off" for that encounter. If we bond, great, if not, then oh well.
I swear, most of the people in this thread is essentially getting depressed or are scared of being alone are too focused on getting that travel to be like how they are in fiction or their fantasy. Too rigid that it has to play out like how it happens in their head. Honestly that mentality can manifest in real life and can really put people off. Also, people like being around people who are sure in themselves(not uptight or narcissistic);
Go back and rot on your PSL forum, your lot are ruining this board.
Of course you only travel alone to Thailand
I just want to make enough in dividends that I can live middle class in SEA running a semi-unprofitable gym while taking occasional trips to Nippon with my waifu and hapa children uwu
I'm going on my two week trip tomorrow. Alone.
is that you? if so, your gonna smash it mate dont worry
How do I get a cute hag gf in tokyo?
>people that dont like to be alone complain about traveling alone.
Fricking morons lol
I spent 3 months in Vientam, cambodia, thailand, china and Japan totally alone (except random encounters, dates and yes some prostitution not gonna lie). Best memories of my life. Cant wait to do it again if they fire me.
How do you guys travel alone without just spending time in the hotel room out of sheer boredom? One of the reasons people travel in groups and with friends and in tour groups is because traveling alone is so fricking boring and cringe. You run out of things to do way too fast, can't really eat anywhere by yourself due to looking like a divorced dad or loser loner, can't enjoy the pub, can't enjoy most things without looking like a creep, and can't really figure out shit to do most the day.
It just sucks ass and I don't get this "epic giga chad travels solo!" meme needs to die on this board. I recently went to Japan for holiday and whilst there I blew through akihabara and ikebukoro in a single day, didn't expect that and couldn't figure out anything else to do. I spent the entire 2 weeks going to akihabara for an hour only to buy some 711 food and play my switch in my room. You couldn't go to most places because they want 2 people eating there and you'd look like a loser going to any places by yourself, it was all couples and groups of people everywhere. You just get depressed doing it. It must be some weird american thing where they don't know they look like total gays or want to cope for lack of holiday by "I travel solo for epic stories!", when in reality they just have terrible times.
Have you tried not being so insecure?
Nobody gives a shit about you eating alone somewhere.
>Nobody gives a shit about you eating alone somewhere.
This has to be the most american mindset possible. Yes people do.
You're wasting the cooks, waitstaff, and bartenders time and other customers. People have to take time out of their day to focus on you and you alone, meanwhile others are waiting and in a hurry especially in the businessman's day of Japan. You're taking a seat for others as well. I don't know why people think it's acceptable people are all going to be staring at you whilst you eat your food, looking like a weirdo. Japan's probably the best example of this, I wanted to eat Kebab stands where you can eat solo like back home is available but eating outdoors is rude in their culture. It really must be sad being so oblivious.
Places like Ramen shops and Sukiya are literally designed for solo eaters though, Japan is one of the best places to be soio. The frick are you on about "the businessman's day in Japan"? They're alone too anon.
Yeah don't go to a god damned family steakhouse on a Friday and get a booth solo, no shit. Only dealing in absolutes is a sign of the 'tism bro, sorry.
At most they‘ll briefly think that you being there alone but that‘s it
Five seconds later they‘ll have completly forgotten you
Being a customer is not "wasting" anybody's time. Eating at less busy places or times is better for solo eaters. I actually enjoy eating at empty restaurants/food stands in Latin America and talking one-on-one with the owner. Solo eating is very common in Mexico, as is outdoor eating on park benches or stools around a food cart. Sounds like Japan is a stuck-up place.
Reality is that traveling together means at least 50% of the fun is being together. Which is why you might have more fun traveling in a group to Hicktown #2 than traveling alone to Tokyo. If you travel alone as a loner then you do loner things and not group activities alone which is the mistake most do. Loner things are hiking, traveling around the country with a motorcycle, snorkeling/swimming or whatever. If I travel alone I'm about 10 hours of the day swimming/walking/driving and the rest in the hotel being too exhausted to do more.
>Be young
>Be attractive
That's all there is too it. If you're young and attractive you'll have locals approaching you and wanting to go places with you, even in autistic shy societies like japan
You sound ugly, simple as.
>traveling alone is so fricking boring and cringe. You run out of things to do way too fast,
Why travel at all if you feel like this? I have literally never felt this way since I go to places that interest me.
Sounds like what you want is just to hang out with friends, not travel.
>can't really eat anywhere by yourself due to looking like a divorced dad or loser loner, can't enjoy the pub
bro you sound like a bigger loser than anyone posting on /LULZ/. a bunch of people in european or asian bars are there alone and theres nothing weird about it.
I cycled from Amsterdam to Rome on my own and for the first week I felt very lonely, especially when visiting student towns and seeing all these people my age doing shit together while I sat there being exhausted and alone. But after a while I realized that instead of focusing on what other people were doing and comparing myself to them I could also just not give a frick and do my own thing. Going solo with the expectation that you will transform into a social butterfly and suddenly make all kinds of friends is moronic. You will be the same person, just in a different environment.
It’s amazing how most people here never got comfortable eating alone. moronic High school level insecurity right there.
You are on SighSee after all
I came into this thread thinking it could be an interesting topic to read through but jesus fricking christ, I guess I only have myself to blame
I agree for the most part.
Except Korea, frick that vain shithole. Literally won’t you in to some places if you’re alone.
why travel alone if you get lonely easily
not like people will praise you for it
You actual fricking autistic moron. The problem is YOU. It’s YOUR actions that have you in this position acting like a pathetic fricking gay, nobody else.
THIS IS YOUR OPPORTUNITY TO FRICKING MEET PEOPLE, become someone, meet cool girls, have fun, have sex, YET YOU SPEND YOUR DAYS MOPING AROUND LIKE A PATHETIC FRICKING CHILD.
Find a nice bar, with a terrace, with music ideally, maybe some sports or a big event, get hammered, find someone sitting alone or just chilling, make conversation, buy them a drink, boom your friends.
I’m invited to 20+ birthday parties around the world year on year because of this. My next coming one is next Friday in Spain from a guy I met once at a bar.
Stop being a freak and start taking action
I get it OP
>get to the airport
>cutie girl rests her head on her bfs head
>I am sitting alone
>enter the plane
>I am sitting next to the aisle next to a couple which is going for their holiday or honeymoon
>they are making out, hugging, cuddling loving each other
>I am siting alone and nobody cares about me
>get to the destination
>couples, families are happy to experience something new together
>I am going to my bus stop alone
>roam the cities pubs
>everybody has fun, a purpose
>I am a ghost
Truly suffering.
>get to the airport
>cutie girl rests her head on her bfs head
It's like they're humiliating us even before our "journey" begins... Brutal!
>ai fell for the traveling alone is good meme
Are you using more recent transformer based architectures? Are you trying to build from scratch or use transfer learning? Did you remember to augment your training data? it should not be falling for memes this easily
pro tip if you are alone and can't talk to people in your own country, you won't be able to talk to people in the country you travel to either
Yeah, so many thoughts in your head you want to share, so many opportunities for fun slip through your fingers because there's no one to share your feelings, impressions, and jokes with. Of course sending photos to friends helps a bit but usually they don't care much because they don't feel the context. And yes, you will see how everyone around is having a legitimate fun and that will make you even more depressed.
Traveling with a bro is the best. You kinda feel like you're in a movie or a video game doing some adventure and solving little quests.
I’ve been traveling alone and what I’ve found is that branching out by exploring first my area and then my region out to my country is more enjoyable than traveling to foreign countries.